8th April 2001
Sports| Mirror Magazine
Give it right
By Nedra WickremasingheThey say it is better to give than to receive - but either way, the art of giv- ing and receiving gifts must be done graciously. When choosing a gift, the giver must think of the person first and take into account the receiver's tastes, needs, and likings. Carefully thought-out gifts go a long way. Ad hoc buying or buying for the sake of buying is only a waste .
On the part of the recipient, an expression of appreciation in gesture and words when receiving a gift is a gracious form of acknowledgement. Be cautious when you next exchange gifts after business transactions - because an extravagant gift can send the wrong signals and perhaps be mistaken for graft. Although, it's the thought that counts, sometimes "something small" may just not be a good enough gift for someone special.
Question: Is it necessary to take a gift when you are invited to dinner to a person's home''?
Answer: This depends on whether it is a business or social dinner. If it is business entertaining where you and your spouse or you alone are invited, say to the official residence of the host and the invitation card is a corporate one, you need not take a gift. You may follow up with a handwritten thank you note. For a social event, it is the done thing nowadays to bring 'something' along - but you are not obliged to and the host shouldn't expect it either. Nevertheless, your generosity will be appreciated.
Question: I am a single woman and often get invited to dinner by my friends to their homes. Can I offer to bring something?
Answer: Yes, you may - but some friends may refuse your kind offer point blank and politely tell you to bring nothing. However, if you are a regular invitee and enjoy being invited, your generosity may lessen the burden on the host, and therefore, your contribution of a chocolate dessert or the supply of wine to be served at the table (if the crowd is small) is not a bad idea.
Question: In response to business favours, is it alright to send a bottle of alcohol to the person's office ?
Answer: During the festive season hampers containing alcohol etc. are usually delivered to a person's home. But it is not proper to send alcohol to a person's office and most establishments do not permit the consumption of alcohol on their premises.
Question: I hardly have time to go looking for gifts during weekdays. I leave Saturdays for this sort of thing and I'm invariably late with the gift. Is there anything wrong in sending the gift after the party?
Answer: Many people prefer to arrive with the gift in hand and present
the gift in person. But this type of arrival with 'gift in hand' is not
possible when you attend functions at hotels in Colombo, as you are compelled
to leave it at the entrance for security reasons. Therefore, in such a
situation there is nothing wrong in sending the gift the next day with
an enclosed handwritten note thanking your host for the terrific evening.
The host can enjoy the gift all the more when things have returned to normal.
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