What women really want

Are you angry, sick, and busy or just being a woman?' was the text messages a friend's partner sent her recently after she ignored his calls and texts for two days after a disagreement. The guy's confusion is understandable, I will have to say even though I am a woman. Men have been trying to understand women from time immemorial and sadly for them, they have not got very far. Which is probably why the likes of Aristotle, Plato and Freud had lot of unkind things to say about women? They got too frustrated trying to figure them out and instead chose to portray them as inferior creatures.

The father of psychoanalysis himself Sigmund Freud apparently said this. "The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is 'What does a woman want?'" Well if he could not do it, there is little hope for you lesser mortals.

But you can take comfort in the fact that you are not alone. The endeavour has continued to this day with each new generation of the male species attempting to figure out "The woman." But even with laptops, mobile phones and the World Wide Web at his disposal, he is still struggling to find out "What women really want."

One reason men fail at this is probably because they are hung up on highly generalized views about women such as women are full of contradictions, they say one thing and mean another, they are complex (maybe true at times), but I wonder if any of these men would be interested in a woman who is so transparent that you can figure her out easily. Not many I would guess.

Well we women also have some highly generalized views on men like, for example, men have only one thing on their mind 24/7/365, (no prizes for guessing what that thing is), they are obsessed with watching porn, alcohol, cricket but given our in born women's intuition, many of us choose to ignore these biological deficiencies in the male species and look at their positive aspects, which is what men should do too.

Men trying to understand women and women trying understand men are a futile exercise as far as I am concerned. The less you try to understand one another, the more time you can save and devote to more important things and it will add to the aura of mystery that keeps men and women attracted to each other on one hand while their love/ hate relationship continues on the other hand.

In the meantime, those of you guys who want to keep trying at this near impossible task, can do so and if you do succeed, you are guaranteed a best seller.