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‘Lust is key to all of the Bible’s famous marriages’
One New York based rabbi is offering new sex advice to American couples, advising that lust, not love is the key to a long lasting marriage.
Rabbi Shmuley Boteach (pictured) has penned a new book about how lust can help a marriage
Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, an author and former New Jersey congressional candidate, has written a new book on the topic called Kosher Lust, which was released on Thursday.
The title focuses on how famous relationships in the Old Testament used lust to create a lasting bond.
‘All of the famous marriages of the Bible are lust relationships, not love relationships,’ the 47-year-old father of nine told the New York Post of his theory.
‘Just look at our patriarchs. Jacob waits seven years for Rachel and for him it feels like a few days. The first thing Rebecca does when she meets Isaac is veil her face,’ he added.
Rabbi Boteach says that American marriages are constantly encountering trouble because they lack intimacy and desire.
‘The reason why women leave bad marriages is because they don’t feel desired,’ he said. ‘Even in affairs, men don’t love the other woman – they lust after her. If you put love and lust together, love stands no chance.’
Rabbi Boteach advises that couples keep an air of mystery between them to keep their chemistry intact, as too much information can erode at their desire for one another.
For example, he recommends that couples shut the door when they go to the bathroom, as ‘obstacles create greater designer.’
He also says to avoid walking around naked, especially when the other party is engaged with another object – like the TV. Being naked too often will cause them to lose interest, and make it a less special occasion.
In his mind: ‘Lust is the pinnacle of holiness.’
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