Appreciations
View(s):The life he led was a model for all of us to emulate
Shibly Aziz
“Say to my brethren when they saw me dead,
And wept for me lamenting in sadness:
Thinking ye that I was the corpse you were to bury?
I swear by God, that dead one was not I
When I had formal shape, then was it my body
Served as my garment, I wore it for a while
A bird I am now; that body was my cage
But I have flown away leaving it behind as a token”.
(The above is an adaptation of a famous poem written by Imam Ghazzali, one of Islam’s greatest scholars, and found under his pillow, a few hours after his passing in 1111 AD.).
Three weeks before he passed away, Shibly, his wife Fathima, my wife Rezani and I spent a relaxed Sunday evening watching the sun set over the sand mounds of the developing Port City, from one of Colombo’s highest points at Kingsbury Hotel. We spoke of many things; Shibly had been asked to suggest a replacement for himself in Sri Lanka’s Constitutional Council, a position he had held for three years and for which we tossed names randomly, deliberating on their credibility and ability to serve. We discussed the pros and cons of the Muslim Marriages and Divorces Act (MMDA), in which he had played a pivotal role and to which he reasoned out the steps that had to be introduced slowly, in measured strides, allowing time for all stakeholders to understand and appreciate the changes. The next day he was to see an ophthalmologist regarding an issue with one of his eyes and sight.
The issues of the eye and concerns connected to his heart were what led to the next three weeks of him being hospitalized and ultimately led to his passing, which no one quite expected to be so soon.
The outpouring of grief by the many relatives, friends, professional colleagues, school friends, corporate colleagues, politicians, government and civil society underscored that Shibly’s value transcended way beyond family and relatives to have been a vital source of life-changing moments in many people’s lives, the community and society at large. To us, he was a family man. He loved his family profoundly. He was a devoted husband, father, uncle, brother and admittedly, my late mother’s favourite.
The eldest son of Senior Advocate late M.H.A. Aziz from Galle and Jiffriya Idroos of Matara, Shibly Aziz, had his primary education at St Thomas’ Prep School in Kollupitiya and secondary education at Royal College, Colombo at which he excelled in his studies and is remembered for carrying away seven prestigious prizes at the College Prize Giving in 1962 – the Shakespeare, E W Pereira and five other coveted prizes. He completed his LLB degree passing out with Honours from the University of Peradeniya.
After a short spell at the unofficial Bar, he joined the Attorney General’s Dept as a Crown Counsel in 1968 and gradually rose up its ranks to be Senior State Counsel, DSG, Solicitor General and finally the Country’s Attorney General in 1994. He was the youngest member of the Bar to be conferred President’s Counsel. He resigned from his position as Attorney General prematurely, on principle, not wanting to be unduly ‘politicized’ and compromise his ethics and values. Integrity was everything to him.
Shibly married Fathima, the accomplished daughter of Late Dr. A R.M. Waffarn and Mrs. Sithy Waffarn. He enjoyed holidays with their two sons, Afdhel, an internationally acclaimed Marketing Consultant who lives in California and Dr. Aadhil, a Consultant Physician, living in Melbourne, and their families.
He was the eldest of my siblings followed by my sister Minha, brother Imthiaz, myself and our youngest sister Ryhan (Babsy).
Shibly achieved much in his life, none of which he clamoured for but which came his way and he accepted it with the humility and dedication that was characteristic of him. President’s Counsel, Attorney General of Sri Lanka, President of the Bar Association – the only lawyer to head both the official and unofficial Bar, member of the Constitutional Council, President of the Ahadiya Schools Federation, Chairman, Civil Aviation Authority and so many other positions he held in the community and society at large, sat lightly on his shoulders.
Last year, Fathima and he were part of my ‘family’ delegation to Lahore and Islamabad, Pakistan to be a part of my being conferred the highest civilian award, Tamgha e Khidmat by the Government of Pakistan for promoting friendship, trade, investments and community oriented projects between the two countries. We were given a convoy of luxury vehicles but Shibly chose to travel in the van that my sons used and what fun they had!
That was Shibly – the essence of humility, simplicity, peaceful and unassuming, God fearing. As Attorney General, living in the government allocated house on Paget Road, the police guards who had never seen him on one instance, stopped him at the gate to ask who he was when he drove in. In his characteristic manner he answered saying “I have come to see AG Mahattaya”.
The life he led was a model for all of us to emulate. Arrogance, false pride, greed, egoism and petty mindedness were traits he abhorred. Positions didn’t bother him nor did recognition or fame.
Thousands paid their last respects at his residence and at the funeral at the Jawatta Muslim Burial grounds. I have never seen such a massive crowd at a Janaza at Jawatta. Almost every person who condoled with me had something to say how Shibly had touched their lives in one way or another – lending a helping hand, mentoring, intervening and assisting in family and financial disputes, giving a letter of recommendation, free legal advice and consultations and so forth.
I pray that my brother Shibly will be blessed with the highest place in Jannathul Firdause. Inna lillahi we Inna ilaihi rajioon – From Allah (God) do we come and to Him is our return.
To the righteous soul will be said:
“O thou soul in complete rest and satisfaction!
Come back thou to thy Lord-well pleased thyself, an well pleasing unto Him!
Enter then thou among my Devotees
Yea, enter thou my Heaven”.
Sura Fajr verses 27-30 (Holy Qur’an).
Ifthikhar Aziz
Our lives go on but nothing is the same
Virginia Gauder Perera
It’s been 12 sad lonely months since my wife / our two children’s mama, Virginia , passed away on November 18 from ovarian cancer. We remember you, love you and miss you darling
Ginny / mama.
With a broken heart and tears in my eyes, I can honestly say, this is by far the most difficult time ever. I know what cancer and treatment can do to a body and I sometimes wonder if the treatment is worth it in the long haul. It seems to do more harm than good, depending on the stage of the cancer – my wife was a stage 3 cancer patient.
Nothing was more painful than watching my wife suffer,trying to smile and remain positive, but after chemo , you know the person is physically changed and they suffer with this sadness, knowing deep within that a cure is beyond reach, but not giving up hope of a miracle..which was not be….
We think of you in silence and often speak your name
All we have are memories and your picture in a frame
Your memory is our keepsake with which we’ll never part
God has you in His keeping we have you in our heart
Our lives go on without you
but nothing is the same
We try to hide our heartache
When someone speaks your name
The special years will not return
When we were all together
But with love in our hearts
you walk with us forever.
“Tomorrow isn’t promised” was part of my status after my wife passed away. Ironically the truth of this sinks in as I ponder on the futility and unpredictability of life. I try to live each day leaving no place for regrets. None of us know when our “final curtain call” comes.
Rest in the arms of Our Lord Jesus, darling mama / darling Ginny
Your husband Wasanthakumar
With us you still remain
Charles Rex de Silva
Three years have passed, but our eyes are filled with tears,
You went away so suddenly, without a word,
Gifted as you were,you were complete in every way,
A loving husband, a devoted father and a caring brother,
You are far away, but we hold you close in our hearts
Reliving those happy times we spent, your laughter
filling our home.
You have gone away, but with us you still remain,
In our hearts, in our minds and in our lives,
You will be unforgettable….
Your loving wife Ranjini and sons Nishan and Dilan and family