Seven steps to take when a child informs you of assault
View(s):Frequent reports of violence against children in this country are alarming. Adverse childhood experiences have a direct effect on the wellbeing and the development of a child. A child who experiences cruelty approves of violence as an adult. This condition directly impacts the country’s overall development. In 2017 alone, over 9,000 complaints were received by the National Child Protection Authority Child Help Line 1929.
Here are seven steps that adults can take when they are witness to or informed against acts of violence against children. This guideline has been released by World Vision Lanka (WVL) that believes that it is the duty of every adult to do their utmost in protecting and safeguarding the children.
Remember the child is approaching you because he/she considers you a hero, the WVL press release adds.
1. Welcome the child without prejudice
Assault affects a child physically, emotionally and mentally and creates self-doubt.
The child needs to be welcomed and dealt with by people who are sensitive and empathetic to how she/he thinks.
2. Listen to the child before offering any advice
Listen. Don’t interrupt
Give opportunities to talk more. Encourage him/ her but don’t force her/him to talk.
Ask open-ended questions (Ex: “Tell me more about…?” Or “How did you feel about…?”).
3. Believe the child
Sometimes the story the child relates may be hard to believe. Since the child is not matured, he/she may not know how to explain the incident. Yet, let the child know that you believe him/her.
You can probe for the truth later.
4. Never blame the child
The child may feel disturbed and ashamed about the assault. This burden must be eased off.
Since there is a tendency to pin blame on the child, it is important to understand that no assault in any circumstance is justifiable.
5. Uplift the child
It takes a lot of courage to report. It’s important to give assurance to the child that you are proud of her/him and that she/he did the right thing. The child has a great need to be strengthened at this point.
6. The child’s consent should be prioritized before discourse with caregivers
Remember, it is the child who best knows her/his caregivers (parent/guardian, teachers, and/or officials).
Therefore, discuss with the child about informing about the incident to those in authority, so that the child can be assisted.
7. Treat it as confidential
Since this process is highly situational and sensitive, act in the best interest of the child.
Inform the most relevant authorities only. Avoid gossiping. Ensure restoration.
Depending on the gravity of the incident, refer the child to the nearest hospital. Avoid changing clothes and don’t bathe/clean the child, to preserve the evidence. The report from the medical officer is a crucial document during court proceedings.
If you had made a complaint with the police or any other authorities, keep the reference number as it is vital to help you navigate the complaint process.