Don’t Gift Pearls to Donkeys
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The term “donkey” and “ass” have emerged to encounter a critical and insulting meaning in several languages, as it generally describes someone who is obstinate, stupid or silly. A “Donkey” is commonly known as a silly animal, with a reputation for stubbornness as a result of their highly developed sense of self preservation. It is a virtuous attribute to love everyone unconditionally, but at times we get into trouble by doing so. I have been discriminated by certain people when I tried to help. However, with the maturity I have gained overtime I have come to realise that all that I have tried to do is to gift pearls to donkeys.
There was once a young man who was a close acquaintance of mine, he did not excel in his studies, therefore out of love I told his parents to enrol him to follow an automotive course at a famous technical school, so that he could succeed with the necessary technical qualification either by migrating to a Western country or inaugurate his own auto workshop in Sri Lanka, which is a lucrative business. Nevertheless, his parents began criticising me, that we do white collar jobs and expect their children to do blue-collar jobs with grime and dirt. I understood that what I have been trying to do was presenting pearls to donkeys. On another occasion I tried to unite a couple who were going through a rough patch in their marriage and was intending to separate. Later, I was cornered and the husband and wife got together and discriminated my attempt to bring them together. Once again I realised that I was only trying to gift pearls to donkeys. Pearls are unique and priceless, they are identified and valued only by the people who understand their real value, as for those who do not know what pearls are they just consider them as useless pebbles. As I mentioned in one of my articles earlier, an Ayurvedic doctor will treasure a herbal plant but a cow will just walk over it just as he would walk over grass.
Do not try to advice everybody, not everyone will consider your advices as pearls. Life is trouble-free when you mind your own business and keep away from donkeys. Please do not misunderstand me when I say that, as I have learnt it overtime, through my experience that you should not advice everyone. There will be times that you must mingle with everybody, at such moments, even though I am physically present, I shift my mind to a different realm and concentrate on something more valuable. There are times I am invited as a guest for musical shows which the music is not my type and when the music starts, I shift my mind into a different avenue and start thinking of something good. When I shift my mind away from a place of no value and move into a valuable place, I only see a muted picture frame which does not have any impact on me.
Your tongue is a highly influential organ of your body; therefore, you must be very careful about what and when to emit from it. What you release from it relies on your thoughts, which you and I must improve day by day until the end of our journey. When to release is purely a decision under our care. We should be extremely cautious in releasing what is good for people who actually perceive them to be good. If not, it will purely be gifting pearls to donkeys. Over the years I have learnt that saying nothing as much as possible can clearly keep me away from a lot of trouble, as I have seen many people see white as black. That is the reason I always encourage people who see white as white to mingle with those who also see white as white. If not during the eighteen hours that we are awake, there will surely be the conflicting scenarios that none of us are fond of. Each one of us will definitely have conflicting ideas with those around us, but as long as we all are on the same page, working towards a good intention based on an agreed value system, I am certain that our final destination will be a common ground which is sure to fulfil the utmost purpose of the team. When you are surrounded by people with various agendas comprising of different objectives on one subject, then it is essential to keep quiet or simply move out of the situation saying, “Please excuse me I’ve got to go now”, the wisest decision you can make when donkeys try to discuss matters.
I have come across another set of strange people, who ask questions, knowing the answers very well. Their ulterior motive is to nourish their own ego or to push another person in to trouble in the presence of others. At such occasions all I do is keep quiet without answering whilst enquiring “What do you think is right?” nobody wants to say anything silly before others. And when they respond with the answer, I tell them “you are right”. If a donkey prefers to be a donkey out of stubbornness, do not try to elevate it to the level of a horse, as it never intended to be a horse. If it prefers to look like a donkey, why worry?
There are beggars who do not want to live in a beautiful house provided with all three meals. They prefer to keep those warm meals on the table and return to the streets in order to beg. I have seen many people who merely go back and vomit, however we try to clean and keep them in a bed. There are people who beg in the streets, even though their children are doing very good jobs. It is not that children are not treating them well, the reason is that the parents do not understand the value of the pearls as pearls. One day I gave a person a liquid face wash, which is much better than using soap, as the face wash will not dry the skin as soap does. I met him a couple of days later, so I asked him about his experience. He said that he is using it, but after cleansing his face with the liquid face wash, he washes his face with soap, as he thinks it is the best.
One day I bought dinner for my grandmother from a five-star hotel, thinking that she will like it, but after the meal, she asked me if I could buy her a packet of rice from a neighbouring hotel. I got hurt at that moment but later I understood that I should never gift pearls to people who do not understand the value of pearls. Sometimes, even though you are compelled to live with a multitude of people, there will be times you ought to come out of the crowd and distinct yourself as per your value system. If not without you knowing, you will transform your thoughts in to the mind-set of the donkeys, as that is what you hear throughout the day. Though I am physically present with the mass, at many occasions I separate my mind from the mass so that I can preserve my thinking from being corrupt. As I conclude I would like to recap “Do not Gift Pearls to Donkeys”
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