Colorful Journey Blackened by One Crazy Madness
View(s):What do you think made Zinedine Zidane, the king of French Football end his career in such an embarrassing, hot tempered nature on the 9th of July 2006? He was well known for his exceptional performance, class, elegance and almost majestic nature in possession. During the FIFA World Cup Finals which Zidane announced as his last match, out of anger he head butted Italy’s Materazzi and was sent off through a red card. At that match Italy won the world championship.
In 1998 Zidane led France to win the FIFA World Cup. He also won the 1998 FIFA World Cup Player of the Year Award for scoring 3-0 twice in France over Brazil. Nevertheless, his exit from the game was extremely unpleasant. As it was Zidane’s final match in his football career, he could have retired as a king with an unexplainable honor from the crowd, yet due to his uncontrollable anger he had to leave the field empty handed with no honour at all. Even in our lives we go through similar situations where we ruin the wonderful moments in life due one foolish mistake. We could see how many people victoriously pass through three quarters of their lives and darken their entire career with just one act of crazy madness that steals away the enormous joy and peace that they could have actually enjoyed during the final phase of their lives.
I was a brilliant student whilst I was studying at St. Joseph’s College, Maradana until my O/L’s. Yet, my inconsiderate decision to hang around a particular group of friends and seek their acceptance ruined my entire colourful journey which I could have concluded with flying colours at an engineering faculty. Repercussions of insane decisions do not only take place in high profile decisions but it also takes place in our day to day life activities where we sabotage the happiness of our lives through a single venomous word or deed, just because we have failed to control one single feeling.
One day my wife organised a lovely party where everybody was so happy and so was my wife. All the visitors appreciated the wonderful event she organised. However, one of the dishes of rice in the menu was not up to my standard and at the peak of the party I commented on it saying that it was a bit soggy, I just ruined her whole night. Even though I tried to console her many times, the damage was already done and she was hurt. It was one act of crazy madness that was done by me unnecessarily.
Similarly, on the 28th of June in 1997, Mike Tyson bit Evander Holyfield’s ear during the third round of their heavyweight rematch which led to him being disqualified from the match and suspended from boxing, it became the most abrupt chapter in the champion’s roller coaster career. What an eventful ending he could have had if he had controlled those feelings of acting with crazy madness. Thyself is the key destroyer of thy life. I have heard how people have killed another just because he was called a fool.
Many of those who are sentenced for life imprisonment have gone there for worthless, ego-based reasons, that feed their self-esteem. Marriages have ended miserably as a result of selfish relationships, where the needs concern only ‘me’ and ‘mine’. On the other hand, all successful marriages are built on the foundation of ‘us’ and ‘ours’, instead of the self-centered ‘me’ and ‘mine’.
You need to understand when you must hold on and when you must let go. Many mothers who have played an excellent role as a mother, fail the role of ‘mother in law’ as for the inability to set free their sons for the daughter in laws. One of the main reasons we make irrevocable decisions is because of our inability to understand the phase we are at in life. Popularity also fades away, so one must understand the peak of respect and point of being declined.
Many powerful politicians who have failed to understand this basic human understanding have been treated as dogs today, just because they did not let go of the power at the right moment. Just as price elasticity, acceptance is also elastic. That is why there is a famous quote stating ‘one must not visit his neighbour’s house too frequently’, another famous saying justifies the previous statement by saying that the red cockcomb of the cock you see frequently may appear white, as your sight gets accustomed to it that you lose the true value of it. Just as there is a time to be awake and a time to sleep, so is there a time to embrace and a time to let go. If you master the art of attachment and letting go, life is sure to be awesome.
When it comes to financial management, there are two types of people who are missing the true beauty of life. Firstly, the ones who “over saves” and then the ones who “doesn’t save at all”. Just as your crazy madness for greediness will hinder you from enjoying the momentary beauty of life, so does your wasteful madness disable you from saving for the future of yourself and your loved ones. Unfortunately, people think that contentment matters only with regard to materialistic requirements, this is very wrong as we must learn to be content in acceptance, appreciation, honour, love and other emotional aspects. Unless, you will be disappointed the moment you do not receive them or even if you receive it less than your expectation.
You should also learn to be content in pleasure at the right moment. Beyond a point when pleasure exceeds, crazy acts of madness may arise to a point that it is not you but your uncontrollable feelings. When life becomes bright and colourful you must know how to manage your pride and ego simultaneously. You should learn to manage the pleasure that is aroused from your colourful achievements. Recently, I was seated in front of my gate wearing a sarong (a simple Sri Lankan attire) and a villager came up to me and said that my humbleness was highly appreciative.
In response I told him that I always compare my joy to who I was and that every morning I remind myself who I was and what I had when I was no one. This realistic manner of thinking has always helped me to burn my pride and live a grateful life. If you fail to be grateful and appreciative, you are bound to make arrogant and disturbing decisions which will destroy your beautiful painting with just one stroke of jet black paint.
Another thing that you must keep in mind is that you do not have to fight all the battles that come your way, as some battles are worth fighting and some of them are to be ignored, as though you never saw them. When a person who attains less good values than you approaches you with filth, simply feed his ego by saying sorry and walking away from the battle. Feeding the ego of a brainless man is similar to avoiding a mad stray dog in the streets. There were times I got into arguments for just five rupees of change money, now I realise how foolish I was to risk my life for just five rupees.
Your life possesses an immeasurable value to both yourself and your family, therefore make sure you do not pawn it for a foolish feeling of ego. You cannot be as foolish as to be unable to analyse the value of your life against five rupees. Always live with your conscience, understand what is in your possession and what would happen to them if you had made one crazy act of madness. If you are living joyfully, why would you want to pawn it to look good in front of others. Do not do a single crazy act of madness just to create a false identity. Be content with what you have today in comparison to what you had, and not what you think others have in comparison to you.
A friend of mine is still mentally suffering due to his father’s death that was caused due to the sudden heart attack that was provoked by the unbearable pain the father had to go through after my friend scolded him unreasonably. During my grandmother’s funeral my uncles weeped until they had no more tears as they failed to take care of my grandmother whilst she was living. Therefore, do not be blinded by the prevailing circumstances, rather clear your vision to witness the actual reality above the current situation in life. Do not allow the pressures in life to provoke you to react with a single crazy madness which may destroy everything that you have earned in your life so far.
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