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Fancy a drink anyone?

By Ruhanie Perera and Laila Nasry
At a party the waiter comes up and asks "what would you like to drink?" While some would say Coke, others would opt for a Rum and Coke. 'Social drinking' one would say of the latter. Yet, as the party progresses and more Cokes are served along with the Rum, the hosts have to deal with a few staggering guests, some even throwing up into flower pots on their way out. Social menace, anyone? 
Some frank opinions. Names have been changed on request Dulip

Dulip

I drink on occasion, when I go out with my friends. But I usually am the sober one. I was never pressurised into drinking. When I was about 18 years my father set the ground rules, which meant that I could have a drink but that I would always know my limits. And I've always stuck to that. Besides getting drunk means losing control of one's senses and that doesn't appeal to me. I know when I've had enough and I avoid drinking if I am driving or looking after someone. 

I have nothing against people who drink. But I don't think much of guys who go out specifically to get drunk. I know at the end of the day it's their choice, but all the same it's rather stupid. I don't judge girls who drink, I mean if guys can do it I see no reason for girls not to. But if you brought the cultural perspective into this, then it's not very nice. 

Thinking in terms of a partner, a social drinker would be fine, but definitely not someone who doesn't know her limits. 

When people around me get drunk I leave. Even though I'm not drunk being in their company reflects badly on me. When they have problems sitting up straight, I take my cue. 


Shehan

I don't feel shy to go out and drink. It's a lot of fun and you get a nice feeling out of it. I didn't start drinking intentionally and I wasn't pressurised into it. I started when I went out with friends who did drink and then continued the habit. 

I know I change after I've had a couple of drinks, but I don't remember much of what I do afterwards. I know I become arrogant and that my reflexes are rather slow - at that point you'll do just about anything. 

I have been known to make a nuisance of myself occasionally, but I've never bothered other people. However in a crowd we do refuse to leave places once we are comfortable settled there. 

I work Monday to Friday so come Saturday I need a drink. Although I have a severe hangover the next day and really wish that I hadn't done some stuff, by the end of the next week I'm ready for another drink. 

There have been occasions when I go out and don't have a drink. In those instances I have been 
pressurised by my friends to have a drink. You really feel isolated at those times. 


Ray 

I don't like drinking at all. I hate it. But I drink when I'm with my friends. That's just to be 'in' with them, if not they take it as an offence. Of course that's after trying to avoid it about six or seven times. Sometimes I don't like to party because it involves me having to drink. On 31st night I drank to high heaven but that's one in a million occassion. Generally I drink moderately. 

In this country it's like a big thing to drink. I don't see why. People drink because they think it's the cool thing to do or to impress someone. What they don't understand is to have fun you don't have to drink. 

I don't like girls who drink too much. If it's very rarely and at moderate levels I don't see it as too bad. 

Most of the guys who get drunk get pretty aggressive. But sometimes it's real fun to watch them make a fool of themselves in public. As for me I try to avoid them and drinks as much as possible. 


Fathima

I don't drink because it's forbidden in our religion to do so. As for how I feel about people who drink - it's not a gender issue. Irrespective of whether it's a boy or a girl one should know not to overstep the limit. Because those who do, though they may be getting some kind of fun out of it, really make a nuisance of themselves. 

I am not comfortable in the company of those who drink and avoid such people at all times. It's a pity because some of the people I avoid are very nice, interesting people whose company I've enjoyed when they are sober.

I once met this girl who was totally drunk. She was talking absolute rubbish and it didn't seem very ladylike. But I've met her before (when she was sober) and she was very nice. Talking to drunk people is like talking to a wall, only this wall replies with nonsense.
 

Maria 

Most drinks don't taste very nice and that's what puts me off them. I do have cocktails sometimes, but even at social gathering I opt for soft drinks. I've never been really pressurised into drinking, though there have been times when people have said 'come on, have something', but after about six 'no's they get the message. 

Moderation is the key word that all drinkers should be aware of. But since of late the numbers of those who go out to have a drink have been increasing, especially girls. It's become one of those fun things to do. I feel the reason behind this is that so many go abroad to study and they bring back that 'going out to have drinks' lifestyle with them.

If guys do derive some pleasure out of intoxicating themselves, that's fine as long as they do it within limits and stick to their own crowd. Because those who go over the limit can become unruly and that situation can be very uncomfortable, especially for girls. Any woman would feel uncomfortable in the presence of guys who are uncontrollable drinkers - you never know what they will do next.

I think it's a bigger tragedy to see a drunk girl, than a drunk guy. Somehow more is expected of a girl. But it's amazing how so many girls are into drinking these days. If you take a couple of years ago a girl needed to be 17 or 18 to be allowed out. But today, if you go out on 31st night you see heaps of girls at maybe just 14 staggering drunk. It's such a pity, because they are all dressed up in pretty dresses and they look really nice. But when they bend over to throw up the whole 'lady' image goes out of the window.

A person wants to drink, let them go ahead. But those who think they need to drink to have fun need help. People who drink need to be able to live with themselves when they get up the next day, without thinking 'I really made a fool of myself'. 


Avanthi

At 18 years I was told I could take drinks but I thought, since I didn't drink all these years why bother starting now. Besides there are no major health benefits and drinking can lead to alot of problems I'd rather choose to avoid. 

I've read a lot about alcohol and childbirth. In my opinion by drinking you are putting something totally alien into your system which could be harmful. Considering that I think it's a bit unfair for girls to be drinking especially if they are planning to have kids. 

As for guys who drink a lot, well they make me feel a little uncomfortable. What's disturbing is the fact that these guys didn't start at excessive levels but gradually got there due to addiction. The problem nowadays is that drinking has become more of a status symbol. There's this "have you drunk this or have you tried that" attitude among people which makes it all the more showy and silly. It's absurd because they are pretending to be what they are not. 

What annoys me is the fact that people think you are trying to be this real goody two shoes because you decline a drink. No it's just that like some people refrain from certain foods likewise I like refraining from certain drinks. Yuk, no way am I going to get myself used to something just for the sake of fitting in. However at weddings I feel really awkward because when it comes to toasting the couple all that there is on the table to raise is the glass of champagne. Since it's a custom and it would be rude to do otherwise I do raise the glass but give it to someone else to down. 

'Drinking within limits is fine', some would say. But that's as long as the drinking within limits does not become, very insiduously a habit as time goes by'. 


Stupid jokes on men

These are some jokes on men, which we are sure even the men would enjoy!

*What is the thinnest book in the world? 
"What Men Know About Women" 
*What's the difference between men and government bonds? 
Bonds mature 
*How do you save a man from drowning? 
Take your foot off his head 
*What do men and beer bottles have in common? 
They're both empty from the neck up 
How can you tell if a man is happy? 
Who cares 
*How many men does it take to change a roll of toilet paper? 
We don't know... it has never happened 
*What's a man's idea of helping with the housework? 
Lifting his leg so you can vacuum 
*What's the difference between a man and E.T? 
E.T. phoned home 
*What does a man consider a seven course meal? 
A hot dog and a six pack of beer 
*What do you call a man with half a brain? 
Gifted !
* What did God say after he created man? 
I can do better 
*What are two reasons men don't mind their own business? 
1. No mind 2. No business 
*Did you hear about the man who won the gold medal? 
He bronzed it 
*How do men sort their laundry? 
"Filthy" and "Filthy and wearable" 
*Only a man could buy a $400 car and put a $4000 stereo in it 
*Why did God create man? 
He needed to practise
*Why is it good that there are female astronauts? 
When the crew gets lost, at least she will ask for directions


Rules that govern the females! 

Here are the rules that supposedly govern the female, and males cannot but fault at the rules.

1. The FEMALE always makes the rules. 
2. The RULES are subject to change at any time without prior notification...by the FEMALE. 
3. No MALE can possibly know all the RULES. 
4. If the FEMALE suspects the MALE knows all the RULES, she must immediately change some 
    or all of them. 
5. The FEMALE is never wrong. 
6. If the FEMALE is wrong, it is due to a misunderstanding which was a direct result of
    something the MALE did or said wrong. 
7. The MALE must apologize immediately for causing the misunderstanding. 
8. The FEMALE may change her mind at any time. 
9. The MALE must never change his mind without the express written consent of the
    FEMALE. 
10. The FEMALE has every right to be angry or upset at any time. 
11. The MALE must remain calm at all times, unless the FEMALE wants him to be angry or upset. 
12. The FEMALE must, under no circumstances, let the MALE know whether or not she wants him 
      to be angry or upset. 
13. The Male is expected to "mind read" at all times. 
14. The MALE who doesn't abide by THE RULES; can't take the heat, lacks backbone, and is a 
      wimp! 
15. Any attempt to document THE RULES could result in bodily harm. 
16. The FEMALE is ready when SHE is ready. 
17. The MALE must be ready at ALL times 
 

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