What spells romance?
Most of us tend to associate romance with
flowers, chocolates and material things but romance is what comes from
the heart and is all about the little things we do for that special person
we care about.
By Tania Fernando
There are so many ways in which we could show our caring for someone, and
gestures of love do not have to be directed only to the person whom we
are in love with. It could be a friend who needs a bit of romance. It's
all about going the extra mile to show someone we care.
But as with everything else, different people have different notions
of romance. According to Anura, romance comes with love, but Natasha believes
that romance has nothing to do with love; you could do something romantic
for a friend too.
Anura and his girl friend used to work in the same office on different
floors, and once while chatting on the phone with her, he decided that
he wanted to see her. "We decided to meet on another floor and met on the
corridor and exchanged kisses." For him, that was romance.
Meanwhile, Dinali remembers how her boy friend proposed to her. "We
were driving somewhere and then he stopped the car pretending that there
was something wrong with it and asked me to wait. I saw him trying to open
the car door with one hand but did not pay much attention. I was totally
surprised when he gave me 14 long stemmed red roses and asked me to marry
him," she said laughing. "I was so shocked that I just stared at him for
a while before I could answer."
It's probably the Mills and Boons and those romantic movies that often
lead us to identify romance with a guy wooing a girl, but it could happen
the other way too. However, most guys seem embarrassed to talk of their
romantic experiences.
Channa who is married now said that an old love of his who was overseas
had once sent him flowers to office. "I thought that it was very nice and
romantic, but at the same time I was really embarrassed," he said.
Ravi received flowers and a cake for his birthday from his love to his
office and even though he thought that it was romantic, he said he found
himself at the butt end of many jokes that day.
Most often people seem to identify flowers with romance. While most
guys are embarrassed to receive flowers, Romesh says he is thrilled every
time his girl friend sends him flowers. "She knows how much I appreciate
it and I am not embarrassed at all," he said.
A telephone call in the midst of a hectic day just to say that you are
thinking of the person or a cup of tea on a tiring day could spell romance
and caring too.
Nilmini said that the most romantic gesture which showed a world of
love was that when she returned home after a tiring day at work her husband
who is most often away, would make her a cup of tea.
Similarly Natasha said that a call from a friend overseas just to say
that he was thinking of her made her feel much better after a horrible
day. There seems to be no definition to the word romance, it all depends
on your perception of the word. Is it possible to pin it down to anything
in particular and to judge anyone on how romantic they are?
Nadine recalls a call she received from a friend one morning telling
her about dew drops on his window-sill and then reading her a poem on dewdrops
by Helen Steiner Rice.
All men might not go into the extent of reading or writing poems, but
there's certainly no limits to expressing your feelings. Don't forget,
a little bit of romance is needed to keep the sparkle in a relationship.
Romantic ideas
* When you pick up your girl friend tell her how beautiful she looks.
* Surprise your husband/boy friend with his favourite dish.
* If he wants to watch the cricket mach, watch it with him.
* If she wants to go shopping, don't complain - just go with her.
* Call her/him and tell her/him how much you care. |
