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Dear Coz
Age is no barrier
Dear Coz,
I'm a boy in my mid-teens from a leading school. I fancy this
girl who is a really good friend of mine. I smile and talk to her
but she's a couple of years older than I. Still, I can't keep myself
from thinking about her. Please help me.
Confused in love
Dear
Confused in love,
Age is not really an issue; it
depends on a person's concept of it. You'll either win her or lose
the friendship. Are you ready to take such a risk? Once you convey
your true feelings there'll be no turning back. You must be prepared
to face the outcome - whatever it may be. Weigh the pros and cons
- then make up your mind.
Wait
a little bit
Dear Coz,
I'm a 16-year-old Muslim girl who has fallen in love with a
guy who's five years older. The problem is, he's a Christian convert,
who's now a Muslim. I really love him and he loves me too. I know
my parents will not approve of this relationship. I also don't want
to hurt my parents' feelings. Please help me. I'm helpless. What
can I do?
DN
Dear
DN.
Why won't they approve? because
he's a convert? I really don't see why that should be a problem.
The trouble is you're still young. You can either decide to be friends
until you're older, get your boyfriend to speak to your parents
directly or give him up. The decision rests with you. The way I
see it, the best thing would be to wait until you're both a little
older. Then when there's a problem, you'll be at an age where you
can deal with it.
Forget him
Dear Coz,
I'm a 17-year-old girl. I love a boy who's 19-years-old. He's
a family friend. Every moment of the day I think of him. He's the
only one who has touched my heart. But the problem is he has a girl
friend. He's my first love and I can't forget him. Please tell me
what I should do.
RK
Dear
RK,
He has a girl friend. Surely you
can't expect him to dump this girl for you. Painful as it is, it's
best if you put him out of your mind. I know it's easier said than
done. Try to keep your distance and get involved in activities that
will help you meet new people. The less time you spend thinking
the better. Get on with your life. If it's meant to be, it will
be.
Worlds
apart
Dear WXZY (letter withheld
on request),
Give this some thought. You want
to do higher studies and succeed. He, on the other hand, has only
studied up to his O/Ls. I'm not discriminating on the basis of education.
It's just that the two of you seem to have different goals in life.
In a relationship, when two people travel different paths, it's
bound to create problems. You'll be going away soon. Use that time
to think things through. The time away will help you realize whether
he's the one for you. I believe you'll know exactly what you want
once you return after your studies.
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