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Clothes
Line
Bus ride home
A stranger's touch
Rough, unwanted, unwelcome
Violation.
Surrounded by a sea of faces
All turned away, unseeing, unapproachable,
Feel helpless, desperate
Finally relief at my bus halt.
Run home
Warm shower
Scented soap
Rub hard
Skin reddened and scratched
Repeat process again and again
Must feel clean.
Soul Searcher
Think of
others, not yourself
Worry and difficulties seem to be part and parcel of human life.
Those who are immersed in the mundane world are not free from these
unpleasant states.
It is common
for most people to blame others for their worries, especially when
they do not find a solution to their problems. Under these circumstances,
it is so convenient to find a scapegoat: someone who could be blamed
for those problems and on whom grievances could be vented. When
a child is hurt it starts to cry. To stop it from crying and to
make it feel better, its mother pretends to hit another person just
to show the child that he or she had been responsible for having
caused it to cry. The child being satisfied that its vengeance had
been accomplished stops crying and starts to smile. This clearly
shows that taking revenge on someone gives satisfaction to the ordinary
human mind. We should not worry unnecessarily over things we lost
or unexpected events that occur in our lives. But it is useful to
trace back, the cause that leads to the breakage and loss so as
to avoid such an occurrence in the future. We can also think about
how the loss can be replaced, or how to deal with whatever problems,
that may arise from that loss.
Do we have
the courage and strength to maintain a smile when facing difficulties?
It's not really difficult, if we were to reduce the egoism, which
would lead one to believe that only he or she alone needs comforting.
In addition, we should also count our blessings rather than shortcomings.
Always remember the saying, "I complained that I had no shoes
until I met a man who had no feet".When we think thus, we will
realize that there are many people who may be in a worse position
than ourselves, and against this understanding our own problems
can be reduced accordingly.
Thinking of
others rather than brooding over our own problems is also a way
of being happy. The person who is busy making others happy will
have no time to think of his own selfish needs.
Lakshan
Dear
Coz
Take
it cool
Dear Coz
Dear Girl who has a heartful of questions, (Letter withheld
on request)
No, there's nothing wrong in loving especially in the sincere way
that you do. The only problem is your age. A commitment like this
can disrupt your studies. Don't let your heart rule your head. Strike
a balance and things will be ok. Try to understand, your parents
are worried because you're young. I can't assure you about a guy
I've never met. From what you've told me he seems to be genuine.
So take things cool. At least until you're a little older and more
mature.
Ask
her
Dear Froggie, (Letter withheld on request)
Deep down you and your friend both know what you mean to each
other. Isn't it enough? Why worry and try to prove, what you already
know in your heart? If this problem really hurts you then the best
thing would be to ask her directly why she's ignoring you. Why not
do that? At least for better or worse you'll know where you stand.
Dear Coz,
I'm an 18-year-old girl from Galle. This problem is regarding
my best friend. There's a guy who's been after her for sometime.
She doesn't like him but he doesn't take 'no' for an answer. We
tried to explain things to him in a friendly manner but nothing
worked. Now he's spreading nasty rumours about her. He has lots
of friends and some of them live near her. Now he's staying with
one his friends to follow her around. Things are getting worse day
by day. My friend has a boyfriend now. He's really good and suitable
for her but this guy has threatened him, hit him and asked him to
stop this affair. Her boyfriend's father is a senior Police officer.
He told his father about this incident and that guy and one of his
friends were taken to the police station and warned. This has only
increased his anger towards my friend. Now he says he'll kidnap
her one of these days. I can't bear the thought that my friend is
in danger.If he really loves her, how can he hurt her like this?
Please Coz, tell me what I should do?
Strawberry Beauty
Dear
Strawberry Beauty,
I'm sorry your letter didn't reach me on time. I hope you'll
are ok. One thing's for sure your friend is lucky to have a caring
person like you. I doubt whether this guy would carry out his threat.
He knows that he'll be the prime suspect if anything happens. But
better safe than sorry. So always stick together and always go about
in groups. Your friend can also explain things to her parents and
ask them to lodge a complaint with the Police.
Dear Coz,
Two weeks ago I met a school girl on the train. We met each
other on three days. I spoke to her on the third day, because she
seemed to respond to me in a very friendly way. By the time we got
off in Panadura we were on very friendly terms. I asked whether
it's alright if I came to see her next week. She said it was fine.
So as promised I went to the station to meet her. But she pretended
to ignore me and kept talking to one of her friends. When we got
off I asked her whether she was willing to meet me. she said yes.
So I went to meet her again forgetting what happened. It was worse
than the previous day. She didn't care about me at all. I finally
asked her why she was acting like that. She said she doesn't like
things like that. I wouldn't have even spoken to her if she didn't
approve. Now I can't forget her because she has already stolen my
heart. Please tell me what to do?
Greatly Disappointed
Dear
Greatly Disappointed,
So this lady likes to play games. Give her a taste of her own
medicine. Go to the station but ignore her. It might even make her
act friendly. Pretend you don't care whether she smiles, talks or
not. Personally, I feel you're better off without her. If she did
that to you, she could have done it to many other guys. Do you want
to end up with a girl who leads people on for fun? Think about it.
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