A
resolution for you
As another year is about to begin, many are trying to
make new beginnings in their lives as well. How do New Year resolutions
work? Are they any good? Dilshath Banu takes a closer look
Another
New Year is just around the corner with a new calendar of events
waiting to happen. Some may wonder what might be in store for them
in the coming 12 months and plan to get their horoscopes read as
soon as possible. Yet the most striking thing in a New Year is –
the New Year resolutions we make. Whether it’s about weight
loss, quitting smoking, watching less TV or studying hard, it’s
floating in your mind saying, “This year I am planning to…”
However,
within a few days you forget what you had promised yourself. Most
New Year’s resolutions are on the verge of collapsing before
the end of January and most won’t even be remembered six months
later. The reason is simple. Most are made in response to something
negative, a habit or situation that the person wants to change or
end. That’s where the problem creeps in – it’s
hard to develop momentum from a negative response. It’s always
easier to move towards something than away from something.
New
Year means everything is new. People want to start everything anew.
And the New Year is a great chance to make this beginning. It gives
individuals a chance to face a new week and a new month. Yet, the
New Year itself doesn’t change the behaviour of people,”
says Fihama (19), adding, “Many of us forget New Year resolutions
within a couple of months or weeks of making them. And then it’s
all over.”
For
Adnaan (25), the start of the New Year is just another day. “If
you want to change anything, you shouldn’t be waiting until
the New Year dawns. You could change even now,” says Adnaan.
He reveals that he never has solid resolutions, but plans more flexible
resolutions so that he can survive. And usually he is able to work
out some of those flexible resolutions.
Rusiru
(19) says that he doesn’t believe in New Year resolutions,
as he can’t live up to them. “There’s too much
on the plate and simply no time to consider everything,” said
Rusiru. Having the same belief on New Year resolutions is Sumagali
(22) who believes that circumstances may change us and the things
we thought of doing, probably won’t happen. “If people
wanted to change themselves they don’t have to wait until
another end of a year to draw self-development resolutions.”
Thamarasi
(23) had been somewhat successful in keeping New Year resolutions.
“I had made some New Year resolutions, and had the strength
to keep them – not totally, but at least I am trying to reach
the goal,” she says.
“Keeping
New Year resolutions depends on individuals. When one focuses on
his/ her goal, most probably they’ll achieve it. And you need
a little bit of control as well. I am not good at keeping New Year
resolutions, in that I am prone to breaking it,” says Kanchana
(23).
“The
New Year is a good reminder. But New Year resolutions are useless,
unless they are properly programmed,” says Dr. Asoka N. Jinadasa,
Strategic Planner and Senior PR Consultant at Rowland PR, adding,
“real success lies in life plans, not in making resolutions.”
However, Dr. Jinadasa gives us some hints to focus on and keep New
Year resolutions alive.
Focus
on what you want to achieve
When you really want to change your behaviour, get motivated.
When people are really motivated to reach an outcome, they put their
whole heart into what they’re doing. In order to be motivated,
and keep the momentum going through ups and downs, it’s crucial
to constantly focus on your purpose; why you want the goal in first
place.
Drive
yourself through passion
It’s impossible to be driven towards your goal,
unless you are being pushed by something. And this something is
passion. Passion fuels enthusiasm and determination. It’s
the one thing which makes you hang on while the storm blows through
your life. You should be madly in love with the things you want
to do. Then no matter what you go through, you will be able to conquer
them.
Visualise
your desired outcome constantly
Just as a dream seems so real, when you visualise your
desire, your mind will go about making it happen.
Everything
that was ever accomplished by humans was first seen in the mind’s
eye. And it’s no different from the challenges you face. When
you see it as handled, as fixed, as done and as a raging success
in your mind, then you WILL reach your objective. Or at least you
will be able to put all your being into it. Unfortunately, this
is where all us fail, because we never imagine what we want or would
like to have. So start to imagine now!
Build
a support web around you
In order to achieve the above, you need to have people
around you to motivate you. There are dozens of people you can talk
to when you need to improve your life. Maybe it’s your family,
friends, cousins, teachers or people who are very close to you.
But be careful of the negative thoughts that negative people can
impose on your brain. Be very careful, when choosing your supportive
web.
The
will to achieve!
Says Dr. Jinadasa, “If you want to achieve anything
the whole universe is there for you. Most of the self-restriction
we have is due to conditioning by parents when we are kids. Parents
sometimes don’t want to see their children doing certain things.
They tell the children what not to do, robbing the latter of various
opportunities, not only when they are kids, but also when they become
adults. And unfortunately, this cycle passes down from one generation
to another.” So remember we have it in us to make things happen! |