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Ven. Ajahn Brahmavamso’s book speaks straight to your heart with many useful tales that relate the truth of Dhamma to daily life


Solutions through Buddhist stories

By D. C. Ranatunga

Meeting Ajahn Brahmavamso during his visit to Sri Lanka last year was an enriching experience. What a charming personality! His enchanting smile, his simplicity, his persuasive tone, his convincing mode of communication – I shall never forget these features.

Having received his book ‘Opening The Door Of Your Heart’, recently, I found myself reading it many times over. It's so well written. It is a collection of what he calls “Buddhist Tales of Happiness” – stories he has collected over 30 years as a monk living in the forest tradition of Theravada Buddhism. “Life is a series of interwoven stories, not a set of concepts. Ideas are generalisations, always some distance from the truth. A story, with all its array of meanings and richness of detail, is recognisably much closer to real life. That is why we relate more easily to stories than to abstract theories. We love a good yarn.” This is how he introduces the writings.

The 230-page book contains a little over a hundred stories. They have been categorised into several sections – Perfection and Guilt, Love and Commitment, Fear and Pain and so on. None of the stories are very long. All of them are interesting, and each one makes you think. That's how he teaches you the Dhamma.

Here is a typical example, the story titled ‘The Idiot’. “Someone calls you an idiot. Then you start thinking. ‘How can they call me an idiot? They've got no right to call me an idiot! How rude to call me an idiot! I'll get back at them for calling me an idiot.’ And you suddenly realise that you have just let them call you an idiot another four times. Every time you remember what they said, you allow them to call you an idiot. Therein lies the problem. If someone calls you an idiot and you immediately let it go, then it doesn't bother you. There is the solution. Why allow other people to control your inner happiness?”

Ven. Ajahn Brahmavamso Talking of fear, Ven. Brahm relates how he tackled the fear of public speaking: “I was told that one of the greatest fears people have is speaking in public. I have to speak a lot in public, in temples and at conferences, at marriages and funerals, on radio and even on live television.

“I remember one occasion, when five minutes before I was to give a public talk, fear overwhelmed me. I had no idea what I was going to say. About three hundred people were sitting in the hall expecting to be inspired. I began thinking: ‘What if I can't think of anything to say? What if I say the wrong thing? What if I make a fool of myself?’

“All fear begins with the thought ‘what if’ and continues with something disastrous. I was predicting the future and with negativity. I was being stupid. I knew I was being stupid; I knew all the theory, but it wasn't working. Fear kept rolling in. I was in trouble. That evening I developed a trick, what we call in monk-speak ‘a skilful means,’ which helped me overcame my fear, and which has worked ever since. I decided that it didn't matter if my audience enjoyed the talk or not, as long as I enjoyed my talk.

“Now, whenever I give a talk, I have fun. I enjoy myself. I tell funny stories, often at my own expense, and laugh at them with the audience. I never prepare my talks. I prepare my heart and mind instead.”

Ven Brahm compares himself to a dustbin, saying that part of his job is listening to others' problems. “Monks are always good value for money, because they never charge anything. Often when I hear the complex, sticky mess that some people get themselves into, my sympathy for them makes me depressed as well. To help a person out of a pit, I must sometimes enter the pit myself to reach for their hand, but I always remember to bring the ladder. My counselling work leaves no echoes, because of the way I was trained.

“Ajan Cha, my teacher in Thailand, said that monks must be dustbins. Monks have to sit in their monastery, listen to people's problems and accept all their rubbish. Marital problems, difficulties with teenage children, rows with relations, financial problems – we hear the lot. I don't know why. What does a celibate monk know of marital problems? We left the world to get away from all that rubbish. But out of compassion we sit and listen, share our peace and receive all the rubbish.

“That was an extra, essential piece of advice that Ajahn Chah would give. He told us to be like a dustbin with an ‘It's such an interesting hole in the bottom!’ attitude. We were to receive all the rubbish, but not to keep any. Therefore an effective friend or counsellor is like a dustbin with no bottom, and is never too full to listen to another problem.”

Ajahn Brahm tells us a simple formula for making decisions. “Usually we try to get someone else to make difficult decisions for us. That way, if it goes wrong, we've got someone to blame. Some of my friends try to trick me into making decisions for them, but I won't. All I do is show how they can make wise decisions by themselves. When we come to the crossroad, and we are unsure what direction to take, we should pull over to the side, have a break and wait for a bus. Soon, when we are not expecting it, a bus arrives. On the front of the public bus is a sign in big bold letters indicating where the bus is going. If that destination suits you, then take that bus. If not, wait. There's always another bus behind.

“In other words, when we have to make a decision and are unsure what that decision should be, we need to pull over to the side, have a break and wait. Soon, when we are not expecting it, a solution will come. Every solution has its own destination. If that destination suits us, then we take that solution. If not, we wait. There is always another solution coming behind. That's how I make my decisions.”

Ven. Brahm has the perfect mix of advice, humour, practical approach and guidance in his stories. Just as one could listen to him for hours, once you get the book into your hands, you will not put it down until you have read the last page.

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