I was a brilliant student during the first half of my education. My pride based thinking and the wrong associates deviated me from my original capacity. The utmost potential I had within me was wasted just as a farmer throws away all his fertiliser to a weed cultivation where as he could have used it to cultivate fruits. I had an inaccurate self-diagnosis of myself that made me believe that I was extraordinary to have both the sweet and the bitter simultaneously.

My egoistic thoughts fooled me to an extent that I thought I could become a winner whilst consuming drugs and being glued to pornography. At the end of a lengthy time span of blindness with no self-actualisation at all, I found that I was no different to an airless balloon that is of no use to myself nor the society. My focus began deviating the moment I sat with a group of dream thieves. I was attracted to their lifestyle which was indeed a short term pleasure. Yet, little did I know that the time I was relaxing was the time I should have been cultivating.

I ultimately found that I did not even have one single fruit in my cultivation, my land was empty and full of weeds and serpents that no one even wanted to step into. One fine day I came back into my senses and opened my eyes at the Narre Warren prison camp in Australia after a lengthy deviation that began as a result of a disastrous rest I took.

The people we associate play a crucial role in how we achieve our dreams. If you buy their dreams at the cost of yours, then one day they may prick your beautiful life balloon and transform it into a worthless balloon without any air. I am pretty serious about whom my son Joshua and daughter Esther sit with in their classroom as continuous affiliations with dream thieves could steal the beautiful and innocent thought patterns of my children similar to an illicit relationship that could destroy a beautiful family life into bits and pieces. If your brain is not trained to choose wisely, it will surely chose the shorter route as it does not require to go through pain and commitment.

Just as our physical bodies, our minds also seek comfort if it is given an opportunity to choose. Our mind will become either short sighted or long sighted based on how we manage and control our mind. This is the reason why we should not allow the seed of seeking quick fixes to be planted and nurtured in the grounds of our minds. People who easily give up and do not possess endurance are those who have cultivated a short sighted mind.

The longer route is about grinding and shining whereas the shorter route is about resting and fading. The short sighted mind sees only a short distance as it is naturally blinded to the end result. Just like many other youngsters even I once lost control of my mind as my mind was purchased outright by temporary pleasures.

Addiction to whatever it may be from drugs, food, gossip, drama is when an activity takes the ownership of your mind which was once naturally free and under control. This happens when your brain identifies and defines that specific activity as a pleasure. We humans have a natural tendency towards pleasure avenues and their defined levels, so does the natural sad avenues have their own defined levels.

Our brain is meant to fit into those pleasures and levels of sadness, yet if we continually feed extensive happiness or extensive sadness to it by elevating the general norms then those elevated standards become the defined level of satisfaction or sadness of that particular person. That is why people feel very frustrated in case they miss a single episode of a specific drama that they are so addicted to. In other words their brains have defined that they will never be happy without it. When I was young, I needed to smoke a cigarette even to use the toilet, without it I could not perform this job which other people perform naturally.

We must be very vigilant about our boundary lines of pleasure avenues. At the age of eleven, I stopped my son’s attachment towards games as I saw that he was becoming too attached to it. There are youngsters who cannot exist without social media even for a single day. That depicts that they are slaves to those activities. Whatever the activity that you cannot live without has certainly taken ownership of your mind. That is why I ask people if they could stay for an hour alone by themselves whilst talking only with themselves.

Why is there so much depression, anxiety and stress in this world even when we are at the peak of intelligence? The reason for it is that rational intelligence has not been coupled with emotional intelligence. There is no point in fixing the most beautiful and most expensive lampshade in a house that does not have electricity. You must focus on self-awareness, unless you will purchase a ticket to India when your actual intention was to go to Australia.

Just like myself as a youngster, most of the people do not know who they are or they have a deceived perception about themselves hence they take the wrong treatment. It is as though you take medication for gastritis when you have a cardiac issue. In order to know yourself you need to shift your focus from outwards to inwards. Today many have become so interested in knowing what is happening in their neighbour’s family life whereas their family life has already begun ripping apart due to poor self-management. You cannot manage what you do not know. You will not be aware unless you search. You will not research unless you are interested.

You will never be interested if you do not have a vision. That is why it is essential to groom our children to have a strong vision and purpose in life. A man or woman without a vision is like a kite without the string, it will float away and go wherever the wind blows it. Have you been taken away by external forces or are you the host of your life? Many of us are driven away by the external forces where they have sold themselves to such external avenues which are temporary in pleasure and detrimental in conclusion. Life was miserable for me solely because of my own choices. What you have acquired today is not a guarantee for your tomorrow, as tomorrow will have its own demands.

I know of a trainer who was once very famous but he lost his demand due to poor self-management and poor preparation for the future. Your greatest enemy is not anyone else but you. People have defined wrong enemies not knowing that their next door neighbour does not have the ability to change their TV channels from her remote. Your main central processing unit which is your mind should be under your control, so that you will secure your ownership.

The very moment you lose your mind the ability of controlling your thoughts and emotions will not belong to you. Therefore, do not fight wrong battles because if you do so all your resources and energy will be invested in the wrong direction just as you would be seated in an art class when your actual ambition is to become a doctor. The battle is within you.

 

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