Avoid Fighting for Weeds – Use Fertiliser Effectively
View(s):There were a large number of people who attempted to pull my leg the moment I began my life for the second time, after a disastrous first chapter that was entirely wasted on drugs and sexual immorality. It was not at all an easy task to tolerate the wickedness of the people as my nature at that time was also very egoistic and fight oriented. Yet, over time I learnt that the most valuable strength a man possesses is to choose not to fight. Fighting was not at all a difficult task for me, I had even fought with a six feet tall cop back in Australia at the MCG during a SL vs Australia cricket match where I was later imprisoned in Melbourne. As per my view, fighting is a foolish act whilst being calm is a wise act.
Prior to any fight, wickedness, ill treatment, misjudgement and mischaracterisation, I carefully analyse if it is worth to fight or worth to be given up without fighting. You should be mentally very strong and you must possess a courageous spirit to ignore the challenges that others create. Most of the battles that people fight are irrelevant and extremely detrimental to their dreams. We must train ourselves to let go of everything that deviates us and destroys our dreams. One day as I walked out from a teller machine a youngster in his twenties, yelled at me in filth even recalling my mother. It was certainly not easy to walk away but I chose to walk away with a smile, clearly realising that I could have easily dislocated his arm if any argument arose.
Your neighbour’s words, the ill treatment you receive from your subordinates, the yelling of the tuk tuk drivers, the harassments of the society, being mischaracterised by the peers, judgmental statements by friends and the unfair treatment that we receive at government offices are all irrelevant battles that should be ignored and chosen not to be battled. The moment you are challenged by someone, do a fundamental calculation on what you would get and what you would lose. A farmer should be wise enough to safeguard as well as fertilise his own cultivation. If he merely wastes the precious fertiliser and water he has on some worthless weeds, then he is sure to end up as a loser during the time of harvesting.
Just as it is essential to be sharp in our sight and attentive in our listening, we also need to train our eyes and ears to be deaf and blind on certain occasions. Being blind towards irrelevant scenarios and deaf towards unworthy statements is a high level of maturity. To be honest this is not an easy task to attain. Yet, change is a process that needs hard work on a daily basis until we are refined into bright and shining pieces of gold. To be frank, it is not essential for you to see and hear everything that is taking place around you.
I have observed how people serve themselves at a buffet. They tend to serve everything available thinking that if they do not do so it will not justify the investment they have made on the buffet. Little do they know that serving bitter gourd and honey glazed meat together will not allow you to taste either of the cuisines. Greediness and Ego can be compared to putting a few drops of cow dung on a fresh bowl of curd. We need to teach our children to walk away from fights at whatever it may cost.
I have heard how people kill each other just for a few inches of land. Furthermore, I have seen siblings who choose to discontinue their blood relationship simply for a sum of fifty thousand rupees. Isn’t life more worth than a few inches? Aren’t your blood relationships more valuable than fifty thousand rupees? There are times I have acted as though I have never hurt anyone. Yet, the truth is that I have pierced into the hearts of my parents, wife and other loved ones at various occasions. Then why should I get mad when someone hurts me? Just as if I have not hurt anyone ever. Self-realisation will assist you to cultivate empathy which is much needed in order for everybody to live in harmony. Above all, isn’t your peace of mind and bubbling joy in the heart more precious than any of the useless, blameless, powerless words your enemies release. The moment you feed into their unworthy words or arrogant body language, you have lost the battle.
A young cricketer recently hit another with his bat just because he could not handle a simple emotion. This is the disastrous mental state of some who belong to the younger generation. The worst scenario is that some of them are from the so called high profile schools. My son Joshua recently ignored a tuk tuk driver who shouted at him even after cheating on him. When I inquired about the incident he said “Thaththi it’s not worth arguing with him over 100 rupees”. Isn’t this the rich mentality that we should cultivate in order to equip the next generation?”
A battle not fought is not a battle lost. As for me, irrelevant battles that are not fought are battles successfully won. One of my friend’s father once died after fighting with a man who had a gun in hand, he fought to secure one million rupees. My question here is, wasn’t the time he could have spent with his grandchildren more precious than the one million rupees he lost? Isn’t taking his little grandchildren to school more worth than that one million? Isn’t being there for his wife while she is sick more worth than one million? Yet, many a times we place our ego at the top most. And say I am fighting for my self-esteem. How much is your self-esteem worth? Is it more precious to you than your inner peace and the peace of your loved ones?
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