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Akki talks about Thaththa

Sunethra Bandaranaike, eldest daughter of two Premiers, talks to Kumudini Hettiarachchi

S.W.R.D. Bandaranaike and childrenA cosy room. "Thaththa" in his pyjamas and "Amma" in her dressing gown having their fruit and cup of tea. "Akki", "Nanga" and "Mallo", as "Thaththa" used to call them, trooping in to bid goodbye to their parents each morning before school. This was the daily routine and for the Bandaranaike family, that day, September 25, 1959, was just like any other. When they went in to say 'bye to their parents before heading for school, the two girls to St. Bridget's and the boy to Royal, little did they imagine the shocking incident that would not only change their young lives forever, but also the fate of the country, which has been inextricably linked to theirs down the years.

And Sunethra Bandaranaike, eldest daughter of two Prime Ministers and big sister of President Chandrika and leading UNP politician Anura says: "The first news was brought by a domestic to school around mid-morning that father had taken ill. We were collected from school and brought home. There was blood all over. The marble floor tiles were spattered with blood. It was such a shock that my father had been shot in this very house by a Buddhist monk."

We are at No. 65 Rosmead Place, 40 years later. Earlier, seated in the parlour of this old, stately mansion with the heavens opening up outside, it is like taking a walk into the past. The halls lying in shadow are hung with black and white portraits of Solomon West Ridgeway Dias Bandaranaike and coloured ones of Sirimavo Bandaranaike. Showcases in the room are full of bric-a-brac collected or presented over the years. Ten minutes later, we are ushered up a curvy staircase and into the present era. Bright lights, cheery decor, colourful cushions with modern designs and we are in Sunethra's own little niche.

"To me," says Sunethra, "My father was a man with a booming voice and quick temper. He would flare-up suddenly and when he raised his voice it was like the god of thunder. We, children would shake and quiver." For the next hour-and-a-half, without feeling the time pass, we listen to the daughter's reflections of her father.

Though he was a man of great compassion for humanity, he was not a domesticated father or husband. "There was no outward manifestation of his affection. He was not a father who would suddenly grab and hug us or throw us up in the air. Remember he was of the Victorian era." They were "distanced" from him and "feared" him. He was not close to them.

He was also a very busy man. It seemed as if he used to think that he had looked about a long time and carefully selected a woman who would be capable of taking care of the household and the children. Occasionally, he would spend a few days with them at Horagolla or on holiday in Nuwara Eliya, but soon after he would get on with his work.

"He would tell us not to dissipate our energy, but conserve it for the purpose at hand. He would be very proud when I became first in class, which was quite often," she says with an embarrassed laugh. "He would pat me on the head and give me money not to buy clothes or toys, only books."

"My early recollections of the people, including my father, around me would have been from the time I was about four or five years. He died when I was just about to do my O.Ls. I was 16 then. But there was a continuing thread throughout that period. Though he was frail of physique, one was that he was a strong masculine personality. He was a positive man. There was no unsureness or uncertainty. He was sincere. The other was that he was very strict with us. We attended a Roman Catholic convent in the weekdays and a Dhamma class on Sunday. He was conventional and old-fashioned. He felt girls should be obedient and correct in their behaviour. He felt that girls in Asia including Sri Lanka had to conduct themselves like 'young ladies'.

"The fathers of our school friends were liberal and allowed them to go to parties. My father allowed us with reluctance and after discussion with mother. A domestic was sent early to collect us. If we wanted to watch a movie he asked what the story was. On the other hand he was very keen that we should study and go in for a career, even though we were women. But he left the task of bringing up the children to mother.

"Breakfast was the time when crucial issues and what was happening in the country were discussed with mother. During the short span of three years that he was Prime Minister there was strike after strike, and he was stressed out. He was a great democrat. He was a man with a vision. Amma used to listen to him and say 'If I were you........' and very gently he would explain to her why it had to be done another way.

"As opposed to being very strict with his own children, he was warm when it came to his colleagues. He used to bring lots of people into this house. 'Come, come,' he would say, and usher them into our home and shout for 'Sirima' that they were all staying for lunch. And mother would rustle up something. He would sit in the dining room with all these people, chat with them, joke and laugh. They were not threatened by his personality. He had a tremendous sense of humour, but there was no malice towards anyone. He was a man who had great compassion and humanity. However, he couldn't tolerate fools.

"He had a clever turn of phrase. The flow of language was very good. He would say something, pause for effect and repeat the last sentence for more effect. He teased people good-humouredly. He loved to match-make for young people. He was also very good at coining nicknames. He would suddenly call my mother 'Vo' leaving out the 'Sirima' bit in 'Sirimavo' and she would be furious.

"He was also a man who could laugh at himself. He would look at the cartoons in the newspapers and say, 'I'm in the papers' and enjoy a joke directed at him. Though sometimes the newspaper cartoons were malicious, he would say that it was good to be in the papers and bad only if they ignored him.

"In Parliament whenever it was time for him to speak he would rise to his feet slowly, without any jerky movement. Looking at the opposition benches with a half-smile, gently nodding his head, he would say the most cutting remarks in the most beautiful language. He could use his sense of humour even as a parliamentarian.

"It was some time after his death that we realized what a loss it was to the country as well as a personal one. We were to visit him the day after he was shot. But as we were preparing to go to the hospital, the message came that he had died. Today, human life seems to mean so little and we've grown used to violence. But such a thing was unheard of in the Fifties. The week after his death passed in a haze. His body was kept here, then in the House of Parliament and later at Horagolla before cremation. Thousands of people came to pay their final respects.

"When we saw others cry, we cried and when our cousins came, we laughed. The impact of the loss came much later. Having a strong mother gave us reassurance though. In other households, there would have been financial insecurity with the loss of the breadwinner.

"Fortunately, we didn't have to face that. Our insecurity came from the realization that 'my God, one parent is gone'. At that time Anura was only about 10. He was father's favourite - the much-awaited son. This gentle, soft boy who was spoilt by our father leant on him heavily. I feel that for Anura, his death was a blow he has never recovered from.

"People may think that we might have begun to hate the Buddhist clergy, because it was a monk who shot our father. But the statement to the nation our father made from his hospital bed was very clear. He called on the people to be calm and collected and explained that his attacker came 'in the guise of a Buddhist monk'. Our father, the victim, had shown compassion from his deathbed and we could learn from him.

"In a sense we were cushioned a lot from the trauma by a strong and sturdy mother. For her, treading the path taken by our father was the most natural thing. She felt he had left 'unfinished business' which she was duty-bound to follow and that is why she took to politics. He was a man with a vision and it was only natural that she took over from where he had left off."


S.W.R.D. - 1956-1959

A man with a vision

Ceylon, since its Independence, had lain for nine long years in the womb of history. When Bandaranaike delivered the child in 1956, he slapped it and it cried for the first time for all the world to hear. And the world wondered.

The back-bent Britisher had packed up his tents and departed from the Island in 1947, handing it over to a set of brown Englishmen in all but birth, who proudly took the place of the departed white men from across the seas, and ruled on the old colonial pattern, guarding the British bases, safeguarding British interests, living an alien life, as though nothing in the world had happened.

Then in 1956, like a clap of thunder from a clear sky, came S. W.R.D. Bandaranaike. After one of the most amazing surprise victories in the modern democratic world, Bandaranaike tossed over to the people the jealously guarded fruits of freedom, seasoned with a dash of Socialism.

The fat of brown flunkeydom was in the fire. The sizzling of the diehards carrying the white man's burden by proxy could be heard echoing through the infuriated Press. But Bandaranaike was a man with a mission, a man with a vision. Nothing could deter him blazing a new trail of freedom for the common man.

.........He had cleared the way for the reorganisation and reform of the old Colonial system of administration, for making Ceylon a Republic on the Indian model, for changing the Island's wage and salary structure and for making finance facilities available to the rural population, when suddenly tragedy overtook him. From Early Prime Ministers of Ceylon as seen by D.B. Dhanapala In terms of statistics, by the General Census taken in 1946, the Burghers as a specific community in Ceylon (as it was known at the time), numbered 42,000 against a total population of 8 million- which is close to 0.6 per cent. At the last General Census of Sri Lanka taken in 1981, the total population having mounted to 18 million, the Burghers formed 0.3 per cent which is 54,000.


Her humane touch

The world's first woman Prime Minister wasn't just a political figure says Manel Abhayaratne

The charisma of Mrs Sirimavo Bandaranaike, the world's first woman premier and the impact she had on the politics of this country are too well-known for me to comment on. In a highly male-dominated Asian political scenario she became Prime Minister in 1960 bringing in a new dimension of female intuition and understanding into the more prosaic masculine domain. Today though the office of Prime Minister has undergone change under the Presidential system of government, yet Mrs Banda-ranaike holds the unique position of being the Prime Minister of this country on three occasions and she continues to bring to the post the same confidence and commitment she displayed so many years ago.

In my conversations with her I remarked that the Sri Lanka Freedom Party of which she is yet the President owes its continuation to her. It is doubtful, given the vagaries of the public mind, that the SLFP without her single-minded leadership would have continued much longer after the assassination of S.W.R.D. Bandaranaike. It is she who gave it direction and continued to sustain its direction at much personal cost.

However, what impresses me most about Mrs Bandaranaike today is not her political success of which much could be written, nor even her charisma as a political leader but the greater sense of serenity and commitment that is uniquely hers. In her is seen the quality that seemingly appears to be no more, the belief that the most important principle of life is to be true to oneself, for then as Shakespeare said: "One can then not be false to any man." It is this quality that makes her firmly believe that we are the shapers of our own destiny.

In conversations with her, this thought is clearly expressed in her observations on peace and the economy. I often feel strengthened when talking to her of a conviction that we as a nation can achieve much if we rid ourselves of our communal bias and regard not our own individual interest but the greater interest of the country.

Often her concern for detail and for punctuality is another of her characteristics which continues to surprise me. I can yet remember when I was Director of the BMICH we would wait for her arrival a few minutes before the scheduled time for we knew that she would never be late for whatever appointment she had. In the same way, if she gave a time to meet one, one was certain that at the appointed time she would be there, so different from most situations today.

It was at the BMICH that I realised her concern for the under - privileged and marginalized, how a worker was treated and what facilities he had. The first question she asks of anyone who goes to see her even now is, 'How are you?' and this is not a polite query but one of genuine interest.

A few days ago, I visited her and we talked of my tenure at the BMICH and she inquired about the people who had worked with me. I was struck by her enthusiasm to know of the people she remembered despite her present disabilities. She wished to know of where they were and what they were doing. It is this humaneness of Mrs Bandara-naike that creates a bond of affection above whatever loyalties a person may have.

My knowledge of her was very limited till I came to the BMICH but since then I would say that not only do I admire her, but that by her very nature, she draws people to herself. Talking to her I was impressed by the serenity with which she regards life. A verse I had read came to mind.....

'Serene I fold my hands and wait,
Nor care for wind, nor tide nor sea,
I rave no more against time and fate,
For lo! my own shall come to me.'

The writer is also a former Director of Information


Military coup – 1962

Test of FDB's strength

"I say Felix, we almost did it. You b...., although you are one of us, you identify yourself with the poor," said Sidney Zoysa when he met Justice Minister Felix Dias Bandaranaike and wife Lakshmi at the Nuwara Eliya Hill Club months after the attempted coup.

That January 27th of 1962 is a day Lakshmi will never forget. It was a day when Felix's strength was put to trial with the investigations into the coup attempt against the legally-constituted government of Mrs. Sirima Bandaranaike.

"Felix was unusually tired that day and was home sleeping off some fatigue, she remembers, "when I was forced to waken him due to the urgency of the matter. I couldn't help but do so, reluctantly."

The events that followed have been documented many times over. The facts have been bared and the deed undone in the nick of time. "The great thing about the whole affair was that there was absolutely no bloodshed or physical abuse during the interrogation," said Lakshmi. "That was the humane side of Felix."

"He may have appeared arrogant and pompous. He would bandy words and argue points, but his impeccable upbringing would not allow for any physical harm towards another," she said.

Lakshmi Dias Bandaranaike remembers the life and times of her husband Felix like the back of her hand. Their house is like a museum of FDB memorabilia. Pictures of him with various heads of state and dignitaries and caricatures and collectibles crowd the house from shelf to ceiling. For her, it was a lifetime of devotion and dedication towards his beliefs.(MW)

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