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Dear Coz
Explain to your family
Dear Gilly,
No, you've done nothing wrong.
But you should have made things clear to 'K' from the start. If
there's any reason to ask for forgiveness it should be for that.
However, you did everything with his best interests at heart. Don't
worry. Let them fling false accusations. You know who you are. Try
to explain things to your mother and brother if you can. 'K' wants
to dominate you. Don't give him that satisfaction. If he was going
to hurt you, he would have done it by now. Your boyfriend and you
must talk things through and come to a decision regarding 'K' and
your affair. If you two are serious, tell your families and make
it official. That way, 'K' has less chance of slandering your character
or of destroying your affair. Good Luck!
Reconsider
Dear
Coz,
I'm a 21-year-old working guy who loves a girl of another religion.
We broke up several times and got back again a few months ago. Coz,
I'm a very shy guy although I'm 21. Now she tells me she can't go
to parties with me because I'm boring and don't know how to turn
her on. But we love each other a lot and want to spend the rest
of our lives together. Please tell me what to do?
C.L
Dear C.L,
There's only so much you can do for a person. You are you. Do you
want to change your whole personality for the sake of this girl?
True love is about accepting a person just the way they are. If
she's bored with you, maybe it's time you considered whether the
two of you are right for each other. Talk it over. It's time you
compromised. You can't be the only one who's making all the sacrifices.
Work on it fast or a couple of years from now you'll be left feeling
nothing but dissatisfied.
Be friends
first
Dear
Coz,
I'm a 17-year-old boy who's sitting for my A/L examination
next year. When I was doing my O/Ls, there was a girl in my English
class who spread a story among her friends that I was after her.
I knew lots of girls were interested in me and was quite proud about
that. But now I realise that I have fallen in love with her. I don't
know how she feels about me. Also I'm afraid that it might affect
my good name in the class and my village if people get to know of
this. Tell me what I should do?
SA
Dear
SA,
She went to the extent of making up a fairytale about you chasing
after her - of course she likes you! She'll be in seventh heaven
if she knew how you felt about her. There's no guarantee that this
will not get around. There's always a chance that she herself will
spread it around. First, get to know her as a friend. It's a lot
safer. You'll then have plenty of time to decide if she's the one
for you. Good Luck!
Think again
Dear
Coz,
I'm a 16-year-old girl. I've fallen in love with my cousin
brother. I want to tell him that I love him. I don't know whether
he loves me or not. That's why I feel shy to tell him about my love.
I can't even do my work without thinking about him. How can I win
his love? Please help me.
SDS
Dear SDS,
I don't mean to throw cold water on your love but shouldn't you
give this a bit more thought? Apart from the fact that blood relatives
shouldn't marry due to medical reasons, there's the family factor
to consider. Neither your parents nor his would agree to this even
if he does. You'll be walking into hot water, which you might not
be able to handle right now. Family clashes, problems at home; is
he worth all that? I think not. Why not put the time you waste thinking
about him into some good cause. An extra-curricular activity that
would help you meet more people would be for the best.
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