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Dear Coz
Explain to your family
Dear Gilly,
No, you've done nothing wrong. But you should have made things clear to 'K' from the start. If there's any reason to ask for forgiveness it should be for that. However, you did everything with his best interests at heart. Don't worry. Let them fling false accusations. You know who you are. Try to explain things to your mother and brother if you can. 'K' wants to dominate you. Don't give him that satisfaction. If he was going to hurt you, he would have done it by now. Your boyfriend and you must talk things through and come to a decision regarding 'K' and your affair. If you two are serious, tell your families and make it official. That way, 'K' has less chance of slandering your character or of destroying your affair. Good Luck!

Dear Coz,
I'm a 21-year-old working guy who loves a girl of another religion. We broke up several times and got back again a few months ago. Coz, I'm a very shy guy although I'm 21. Now she tells me she can't go to parties with me because I'm boring and don't know how to turn her on. But we love each other a lot and want to spend the rest of our lives together. Please tell me what to do?

Dear C.L,
There's only so much you can do for a person. You are you. Do you want to change your whole personality for the sake of this girl? True love is about accepting a person just the way they are. If she's bored with you, maybe it's time you considered whether the two of you are right for each other. Talk it over. It's time you compromised. You can't be the only one who's making all the sacrifices. Work on it fast or a couple of years from now you'll be left feeling nothing but dissatisfied.

Be friends first
Dear Coz,
I'm a 17-year-old boy who's sitting for my A/L examination next year. When I was doing my O/Ls, there was a girl in my English class who spread a story among her friends that I was after her. I knew lots of girls were interested in me and was quite proud about that. But now I realise that I have fallen in love with her. I don't know how she feels about me. Also I'm afraid that it might affect my good name in the class and my village if people get to know of this. Tell me what I should do?

Dear SA,
She went to the extent of making up a fairytale about you chasing after her - of course she likes you! She'll be in seventh heaven if she knew how you felt about her. There's no guarantee that this will not get around. There's always a chance that she herself will spread it around. First, get to know her as a friend. It's a lot safer. You'll then have plenty of time to decide if she's the one for you. Good Luck!

Think again
Dear Coz,
I'm a 16-year-old girl. I've fallen in love with my cousin brother. I want to tell him that I love him. I don't know whether he loves me or not. That's why I feel shy to tell him about my love. I can't even do my work without thinking about him. How can I win his love? Please help me.

Dear SDS,
I don't mean to throw cold water on your love but shouldn't you give this a bit more thought? Apart from the fact that blood relatives shouldn't marry due to medical reasons, there's the family factor to consider. Neither your parents nor his would agree to this even if he does. You'll be walking into hot water, which you might not be able to handle right now. Family clashes, problems at home; is he worth all that? I think not. Why not put the time you waste thinking about him into some good cause. An extra-curricular activity that would help you meet more people would be for the best.

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