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Dear
Coz
It's your life
Dear
I need you (Letter withheld on request),
Sometimes life plays cruel jokes on us. The pain will only
diminish with time. The way I see it you have two options. Either
to wait until you are older and financially stable enough to be
together or stand by your decision. None of the options are easy
but you must make up your mind if you're to move on. Life goes on
no matter what. I can't make a decision for you. It's your life.
First have a serious chat with your boy friend - then decide!
It won't
be easy
Dear Coz,
I'm a 20-year-old girl who's doing my A/Ls this year. Both
of my parents are teachers. I have a boy friend. He runs a small
shop. My parents don't know about my affair. But I think that my
parents like him. Sometimes I cannot meet him, because I'm afraid
of my parents. My parents restrict my freedom. They don't even allow
me to go to my friend's house. His parents however know about our
affair and like me. Please tell me what I should do.
Worried Girl
Dear Worried Girl,
It's not what I want you to do but what you want that's important.
You haven't stated a reason as to why your parents will be against
your affair. Do you love him and can he provide for you? That's
what counts. They must be told one fine day. You can't keep hiding
it forever. The sooner you sort things out the better it will be
for you. The best thing would be to get your boy friend to meet
them and try to sort it out. Act like adults and you'll earn their
respect and trust.
Think about it. It won't be easy. Whether you choose to end your
affair or stand by your love rests with you.
Make a move
Dear Coz,
I'm 15-years-old. I think I'm in love with a girl in my music
class. She smiles with me when I look at her. But I have never spoken
to her. I have given advice to my friends when it comes to such
matters and helped them out. I know they will help me if I tell
them. The problem is I'm speechless around her. I can't concentrate
on my studies. She's always on my mind. I can even see her in my
dreams. I'll be doing my O/Ls this year. So what should I do? This
is my first love.
R.F.D
Dear
R.F.D,
Faint hearts never won any fair
lady, right? So what are you waiting for? Say 'hi', ask her for
some notes you missed or something. You can be friendly for a start.
Just get to know her. Don't rush things. Your exam comes first.
Give yourself time to become friends. When your exams are through
and you've got some time on your hands you'll have plenty of time
to pursue your love. Be patient until then.
Opposing
sides
Dear Coz,
I'm a teenage boy. I'm quite intelligent and there is a beautiful,
intelligent girl in my class. I always become first in class and
she is second. I love her a lot. The problem is, I'm a Hindu and
she is a Muslim. Can I love her? Will religion be a problem? Can
I express my love to her? How should I go about it? Please help
me.
Blue Bird - PGN
Dear
Blue Bird - PGN,
Yes you can love her and yes,
religion will become a problem. So what's it going to be? You can
ask directly, call her up, give her a letter or a card. The fact
is, whatever you choose to do, the issue remains the same - religion.
There'll be endless pain and heartache if you pursue this.
These problems are bound to affect your studies. If I were you,
I'll forget it. She's not the only beautiful, intelligent girl in
the country.
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