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Dear Coz
Sorry,
no details
Dear Xandra KRA, (Letter withheld on request)
You haven't given me your address, so what makes you think
that 'Kevin A' has. If you don't want to start an affair with him,
why bother? I'm sorry, but I can't give out addresses or any personal
details. If it's who you think it is, I'm sure he'll make a move
soon. If it's only curiosity that's making you seek his identity,
you'll just have to let curiosity get the better of you.
Worth a
try
Dear
Coz,
I'm a 17-year-old girl. I will be doing my A/Ls in 2004. I
go for a tuition classes and there I meet a boy who studies well
but never looks or smiles with girls. My whole attention is on him.
I haven't spoken to him or sat beside him to convey my love to him.
Please tell me a way to let him know that I love him
Miss Cool
Dear
Miss Cool,
This is a guy who hardly looks
or smiles with girls. Sitting next to him and trying to whisper
sweet nothings won't work. The best way to approach him is to ask
his help regarding studies. Since he's good at his studies, that
should draw him out. Get him to explain something complicated or
ask for his notebooks to catch up on some missed lesson. Once you
start talking to him, it should be easier to show him you care.
Of course, there's no gurantee on the outcome. If you truly love
him though, it's worth a try.
Be strong
Dear
Coz,
I'm a 23-year-old Muslim guy teaching at a Computer Institute.
I have been working there since 1998. I have never been involved
with a girl before. There's a 20-year-old Hindu girl in my class.
She is a student at our institute. She is dark in complexion and
not really pretty. I don't know why I liked and loved her. I couldn't
express my love to her immediately due to our religious differences
and my inferiority complex.
A few weeks
later, I found out that she loved a boy. He is also one of my students
and I never thought she would be like this because she is very quiet.
My world stopped that day. I have never before experienced the pain
I feel. I'm hungry but can't eat, thirsty but can't drink and I
can't sleep either.
I could bear
it if she had a boyfriend when she met me or if that boy was not
a Muslim. I feel as if I'm going crazy. Everybody including that
boy has asked me what's wrong with me because I look and feel terrible.
How can I tell them? I can't tolerate this loss. I can't pay attention
to anything. I'm going to resign from my job soon. Please Coz, what
can I do?
Heart broken
- Hals
Dear
Heart broken - Hals,
I'm sorry your letter did not
reach me in time. I know it hurts but instead of dwelling on the
'if onlys' try to get on with your life. Just because she's the
silent type doesn't mean she can't love. You feel hurt, sad and
depressed because you found out she's in love with a guy who is
also a student. You say you 'liked and loved her' - you're already
talking in the past tense with regard to your love for her. So it's
just a matter of getting your priorities straight. The fact is,
she may love another person but had it been you, the religious differences
that held you back would still be an issue with you. If being around
her is too painful, then find another place. Don't rush in and hand
over your resignation. Find another job first. It's painful but
it's not the end of the world. You can get over this if you remain
strong.
Take it
slow
Dear
Coz,
I'm a 15-year-old girl studying in a leading school in Kalutara.
There's a friend who attends the same school who is one year older
than me. She is one of my best friends and I love her a lot. I would
do anything for her. I don't know why I feel like this. Although
I have other friends, she's very special to me. Please Coz, what
kind of a relationship is this?
ATF
Dear
ATF,
Most of us care deeply about our
friends. The stronger the bond, the more we care. I don't know how
you're attracted to your friend. Is it physically or emotionally?
You have to differentiate between platonic love and romantic love.
It may be just a phase that you're going through. So give yourself
some time to figure things out. Even if you're not interested in
guys yet, it doesn't mean you're never going to be. You're still
young - there's time. Before you jump to conclusions, just remember
that we all have friends but not all of them are special.
Only a very few special friends remain in our hearts through the
years and this could be one such friend. Don't confuse your feelings.
Take things slow. With time you'll understand how you really feel.
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