Fighting
street harassment
By Vidushi Seneviratne
You are walking down a street, minding your own
business, probably after a tired day at school or work, and the
one thing on your mind is to get home in the shortest time possible
and unwind. But suddenly your peace and quiet is rudely interrupted
with annoying comments and gestures from strangers of the opposite
sex. Typical scenario?
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The streets can be a dangerous place |
What’s behind it?
For most men/guys who indulge in it, the fundamental
reasoning behind street harassment is fun and pleasure. They do
it, well… just for kicks! Little do they know that their casual
or not-so casual remarks, comments and actions can have a great
impact on women of any age.
“The most amount of street harassment I
have experienced was while I was in school a few years ago. Since
I lived quite close to my school, I used to walk to and from school.
I was harassed verbally almost every day, and even had water (hopefully!)
thrown at me by school boys,” says Ashwini* (22).
But even now, the harassment continues. “Most
often it’s based on physical aspects and also weight-based.
I have had things said to me, even if I’m with a male friend,”
she says, adding that other young boys in the vicinity and inside
shopping malls and so on too, harass women quite often.
For Varsha* (23), harassment has come from both
young boys and older men. “Whatever you wear and whatever
your physical attributes are, you are bound to be subject to street
harassment. Usually annoying, and degrading comments and requests
are made by these harassers.”
Being quite slim by nature, the harassment she
has experienced has been insulting on those lines. “Since
I am quite over-sensitive when it comes to my weight, especially
when I was younger, such comments used to really get me down. For
the people who indulge in harassing females, it’s not such
a big deal once the moment has passed. But it affects us to quite
an extent, and damages your ego and self esteem. They forget, but
it gets to us,” she added.
Putting up with harassment to quite an extent,
Nilusha* (21) has a low regard for people who indulge in such behaviour.
“Men are perverts! Well, most men, to be fair, and there is
no age limit to it. When I was younger, I had quite a hard time
with school boys and even older men, but now it’s more from
guys, maybe in their early 30s. These degrading comments are generally
directed to your body, your hair and so on.” She has even
had quite a bad deal in buses, with even very clear physical harassment
taking place.
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You simply have to fight this! |
Street harassment takes place for women regardless
of age, and Amana (16) has experienced it quite often. Not being
a Sri Lankan national, she does not understand local languages,
so most often she does not understand what is being said, but the
way she is looked at, and the perpetrators’ body language
confirms their intentions. “According to our culture, we generally
use the word “Salaam” to greet each other. So I get
a lot of these “Salaams” when I’m walking on streets,
and that follows with a whole lot more crude-sounding things said
in the local languages. Most of the time I don’t know how
to react or whether to react at all.”
React or ignore?
Most women try their best to ignore comments and
remarks made by harassers, but is that essentially the best way
to deal with the perpetrators? “While I was at school, if
I was harassed by my peers, I used to ignore them and walk away.
But I guess that was mainly because when you are at that age, you
are afraid to confront,” says Ashenka* (23). She adds, “But
even now, though I feel I should, I don’t essentially react,
because it makes the situation worse.”
Varuni* (25), on the other hand, has reacted and
shown her displeasure when harassed. “Ignoring doesn’t
really help, because they would keep doing it, either to me or to
some other female. So I have reacted and said things back when people
pass comments. It sometimes takes them by surprise, but most often
they laugh it off.” According to her, they obtain a certain
sadistic pleasure, if they receive a reaction to their harassment,
so giving into that too, is a bad thing. But most often, you are
left without a choice, as these remarks and comments hit very sensitive
spots.
“But since I’m older now, I have learned
the art of ignoring, and by habit, I tune out whenever I am approaching
a group of guys and even a lone man. You should also look confident,
because if you seem nervous, they capitalise on that,” she
says.
What is most frustrating is the Sri Lankan culture,
where more often than not, if a woman is harassed, it is considered
she brought it upon herself. Either the way she is dressed or her
behaviour is held responsible for the harassment, rather than the
perpetrator being held at fault. For Dimanthi* (22), this has been
the case most of the time. “If I am being harassed, and I
react, people always look at me like I am crazy or over reacting.
This is the most frustrating thing. No one ever comes to your rescue,
not even other women, and that really gets you down.”
“When unknown men make lewd remarks and
comments about your body, you feel violated at the end of it. The
least you could expect is for someone to stand up for you,”
says Nimesha* (23), mirroring her thoughts.
What can be done?
While most girls we spoke to feel that there should
be an authority they could go to, if subjected to such street harassment,
others feel that awareness and change in attitude is what we need
as a society.
“I feel that we should be able to walk into
either the police station or some other authority and lodge a complaint,
if harassed. It’s all about respect and dignity as an equal
human being. We have a right to walk on the street, minus remarks
and comments. This freedom or right should not be taken away from
us, just because we are women. After all, it’s not like we
females make men feel uncomfortable at any given point!” says
Tamara* (24).
Vindhya (23) feels that awareness and education
is what would fix this problem. “Men and women both need to
be educated in this regard, since there is a need for an attitude
change. While men need to start respecting females of any age, women
should realise that they should not tolerate harassment, whether
it is verbal, physical, or even if another woman is being subjected
to it. The mentality of Sri Lankans need to change in this regard,
and this can be done only by awareness.”
Though many of you might not be aware of it, street
harassment is a form of sexual harassment, which is a crime in Sri
Lanka, and anyone who is a victim of it, whatever the degree of
harassment, is entitled to lodge a complaint at a police station.
So the next time you are smade to feel degraded, insulted or uncomfortable,
speak up!
(* Names have been changed)
It’s in
the law and the attitude! |
Sexual Harassment is
a crime in Sri Lanka, as decreed in the Penal Code Reforms
of 1995. Any type of verbal or physical harassment falls under
Sexual Harassment, including Street Harassment.
“Any individual, harassed on the road, either verbally
or physically, has the right to walk into a police station,
and lodge a complaint. This could be done irrespective of
your age or situation, so everyone is entitled to this right,”
said Kumudini Samuel of Women and Media Collective.
“As soon as Sexual Harassment was made a crime in
the Penal Code, people were quite aware of it, and there were
instances when women harassed on buses and so on, actually
got the bus driver to take the bus to the police station.
But now we see that though street harassment still takes place,
less women are taking the initiative to complain, and that’s
not a good sign. This shows that the awareness level regarding
this issue is relatively low now,” she said.
But the law itself is not enough. “Change of attitude
is essential, and dignity and respect for both women and men
should be widened,” she said. |
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