No more
cringing over wedding gifts
By Ishani Ranasinghe
The past few months have sure been
hectic. It is as if everyone suddenly woke up one day
and decided to get married, one after the other. Now
this may sound like I’m complaining but I’m
really not. I love weddings; it is after all about two
people who really love each other getting married. Or
as my best friend puts it, this is the perfect chance
to get all dressed up.
Anyway,
one thing I don’t like about weddings is the gift
buying bit. Why you may wonder? Simply because it is
just so hard to get right. Think about it, you would
want to buy a gift that they would like not something
they would just leave aside or just wrap and pass it
on to someone else, most probably the wedding they attend
next.
So it’s always nice to give
them a gift they might just like. Now if you are close
friends of the people getting married then you wouldn’t
really have that much of trouble figuring out what to
buy, but when it’s someone you hardly know, that’s
when the problem strikes.
This is why a bridal registry is a
blessing in disguise for such stressed out and clueless
gift buyers.
A bridal registry is a system designed
by department stores for the purpose of allowing couples
who intend on tying the knot to manage purchases of
gifts for their wedding. Gone are the days when you
open your gifts and cringe. Now you can receive gifts
you require and won't have to worry about unwrapping
the same gift twice.
In Sri Lanka there are some stores,
which offer this option, one of them being ODEL Home.
Hence I figured where better to head than this haunt
of almost every shop-goer to find out how it works.
This is how it works…
Once you decide to have a bridal registry,
the couple is asked to create a list of items they would
like to have looking at what is available in the store.
Thereafter a small card is given to them to send to
their guests with their wedding invitations to let them
know that they have a wedding registry opened at the
store.
As a guest purchases a gift, the department
store's list is updated and the item is removed from
the list and the gift is reserved. This can be efficient
both for the couple-to-be as well for guests who don't
have to make decisions over what to buy.
Thereafter the store delivers these
gifts to you… see it’s as simple as that.
The bridal registry at ODEL is even available online,
so for those of you who are busy with a hectic lifestyle
they can just buy it anytime of the day by visiting
their website.
It is said that the selection of a
bridal registry should be done early in the wedding
planning process (at least two months in advance). This
really does provide the couple with the opportunity
of pre-planning their new home furnishings in advance.
However,
bridal registries are not always well received. Particularly
older guests can view them as vulgar. Soliciting gifts
can be seen as an insult to traditional gift-buying
notions such as “being grateful for what you receive”,
the element of surprise, and leading to gift buying
as a type of competition since the couple know how much
has been spent on each gift and who spent it. It has
led to the more controversial practice of couples asking
guests to give them money instead of presents, in cultures
where this is not the practiced norm.
So just to save you from being as
they would call it ‘frowned upon’ the proper
etiquette for informing your guests about your selected
registry is to request your bridesmaids, mothers, relatives
and your ever-faithful friends to spread the word. It
is generally considered rude to include bridal registry
information (or the notices provided by the stores)
in your wedding invitations since guests are not obligated
to give the bride and groom a gift. But most stores
gives a cute card that goes along with it and that is
something you can include in the gift. It adds something
to the gift.
People might not be that comfortable
with the idea of a bridal registry but people are getting
the hang of it and they are starting to use it.
Well which ever way it’s received
bridal registries give you the opportunity to give the
people you care about a gift they would love and not
something they would cringe at.
So before we make a toast to the bride
and groom… here’s a toast to bridal registries.
Into the history of registries
The concept of a bridal registry
was first instituted by a Chicago-founded department
store Marshall Fields in 1924, and has since been
turned into a well-known experience of many large
stores. Some registries track more detail than
others.
Target was the first to introduce
an electronic gift registry in 1993, using a service
provided by The Gift Certificate Center, Minneapolis,
MN. The service was invented and subsequently
patented by William J. Veeneman, the founder and
CEO of The Gift Certificate Center.
This registry resulted in a
well-spring of similar registries to emerge from
most of the major retail chains in America.
Even Home Depot, the gigantic
home improvement warehouse, offers a bridal registry.
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