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CLOTHES LINE A certain school in Colombo had its batch party last month. Two of my friends and I were invited to it by our sisters. When the day arrived, we were very excited. But when we went there, it turned out to be our biggest nightmare. The dance floor was the worst. First, the way the girls were dressed made us wonder if we had mistakenly arrived at a nightclub. Of course, there were a handful who were decently dressed. But the others, were another story! It was disheartening to see 16 and 17- year-olds dressed in this manner. If they dress like this now, they'd probably go around in the nude very soon. My friends and I were so irritated by this spectacle that we decided to have something to eat instead. But great was our disappointment when we reached the 'food'. There was hardly anything to eat. There were cutlets which were as small as marbles, hot dogs cut into half, some of them minus the sausage, some mixture and eclairs, which were as small as the last finger on our hands. Of course there was plenty to drink. About the guys:
The invitation said dress code - formal. So we were dressed in that
manner. But most of the other guys were in winter caps, baggy pants,
baggy shirts etc. It really made the place look very cheap. I mean
it was shocking to think that this flop of a batch party was organized
by a leading school in Colombo. Girls, it is not that we are accusing you of anything bad. But it's just hard to think that we being party guys didn't like it. If you girls think that you could impress guys by wearing short clothes, you have got it all wrong. By dressing like that you could only impress maniacs. On the other hand, the guys you set out to impress are only impressed by your attitude and behaviour. Sometimes or rarely by looks. Now a note to brothers. Please see that your sisters are dressed properly before they leave home. Because you are guys and you know what other guys think when they see girld dressed in this manner. We always make
sure that our sisters dress decently. So please don't misunderstand
us girls. It's just that we care for your future. Did our realise
that only one person, One of my male friends was of the opinion that I was not having fun and was leading a rather dull life. I asked him why he thought so and he replied. "Well, you don't even go to a night-club and you don't have a boyfriend". I was shocked when I heard him. And I felt sorry for him, for the a narrow outlook he had on life. I am in my early twenties and have a great relationship with my family. I love spending time with them and being with my close friends. As for nightclubs, it is true that one could dance and enjoy oneself at such a place but it doesn't mean that you've got to visit a night club to enjoy life. And as for a boyfriend - well, you can't buy one 'off-the-shelf'. Can you? Maybe, I'm being conservative but I think it's important to find the 'right person' and date him, rather than go out with anyone and everyone for the sake of having a partner. It's better to discourage a person in the early stages if he is not 'right' for you rather than break his heart later on. This doesn't mean that you've got to settle down with the very first person you date. Some boys I know are so afraid when their girl-friend's become a little serious about their affairs, that they just run off. Oh come on guys, being serious does not mean marriage itself. Girls just want to know what their positions are in relationships. And girls, if
you've not yet found a partner, just go ahead and enjoy life with
your family and friends without being affected by the narrow mind
frames of others. Spectacle
obstacle All you lucky people out there who read this obviously have good sight or you might not be able to realise the value of your eyes. We just take them for granted. It is only a person who has lost his sight who really understands the value of it. Among our five senses, sight is the most important as it is the sense which makes us understand the most about any object; the colour, the shape, the size etc. and recognize it. However talking about eyes and sight, among those lucky people who "can see all" and the unlucky who are blind we come across those who are both lucky and unlucky at the same time - "speckos" as they are commonly referred to. Many people use spectacles to improve their sight. But using spectacles is not the best thing that can happen to you, not just because you can't see properly but because of the comments people fling at you wherever you go. This is quite common in our society, unfortunately. I've met girls who find guys who wear specs more attractive than those who don't, but most guys make it a point to hurl awful remarks at girls who wear specs with names like "Speco" to "Potti". This is done by those who are pavement hawkers to the so-called decent guys. They even say things like 'can you give me your specs' or 'you'd look pretty if not for your specs.' And they don't sound so nice when said in Sinhalese. (Kannadiya mata denawada? Kannadiya nethnam, lassani). Once on a rainy day while I was walking home with my specs on, a man who passed by told me to fix wipers on my specs (nangi, Kannadiyata waiparayak hai kara ganna)- as if I was waiting to get his great advice. For those people who pass remarks, it might be fun laughing at others and making them uncomfortable, thinking they'd forget it the next moment. But the person who is subject to that remark might not easily forget. Sometimes it can have a psychological effect on a person. They get hurt at being criticized about their weakness and it might leave a permanent feeling of frustration or unhappiness within them. The best thing
to do is to just ignore what people say, pretend you didn't hear
and not to let lewd remarks get the better of you and upset you.
But it is not always possible to do that when you're at the receiving
end. Those who pass such hurtful comments should be ashamed of themselves
for degrading the dignity of man. After all, weren't we taught at
childhood not to laugh at others?
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