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Does your heart rule your head?
Naturally you see yourself as a caring soul who is basically all heart. Could you just possibly have it wrong?

1Your partner causes a furious row. Afterwards he apologizes with a dozen red roses. Would you:
a) Accept the peace offering and forget the row?
b) Tell him off for buying such expensive flowers?
c) Throw the flowers in the bin and not speak to him until you feel ready?
d) Apologise and buy him a small token of love in return?

2You need a new pair of shoes, but while out shopping you see a lovely dress. Would you:
a) Forget the shoes and buy the dress?
b) Forget the dress and buy the shoes?
c) Buy both and worry about the consequences later?
d) Appeal to your bank manager for an overdraft?

3A close relative is in debt through gambling or drinking. He asks for a loan. Would you:
a) Reprimand him and suggest he seeks professional help?
b) Give the money without question?
c) Refuse because you don't want to encourage an obvious vice?
d) Appeal to the family to solve the problem?

4An acquaintance has two unwanted puppies and unless she finds accommodation for them, they will have to be destroyed. Do you:
a) Take the puppies yourself, even though it might be inconvenient?
b) Tell her off for letting the dog get pregnant in the first place?
c) Persuade friends and neighbours to give the pups a home?
d) Ignore the plea - you think she is bluffing?

5 You've seen your best friend's boy friend out with another girl. Would you:
a) Confide in your own partner and ask for his advice?
b) Tell your girl friend about it straightaway?
c) Make it clear to the boy friend that you know about his infidelity?
d) Say nothing and hope your girl friend doesn't find out about it?

6 You have an offer of an exciting new job involving long hours, more pay and some travel. Your partner disapproves. Do you:
a) Take the job whatever his feelings?
b) Try and convince him that the job will benefit him, too?
c) Turn the job down without a second thought?
d) Turn it down and regret it for the rest of your life?

7 You've got a very busy social schedule and a friend asks if you could spare her an evening to discuss her personal problem. Would you:
a) Apologise but explain your week is already fully booked?
b) Juggle your appointments and fit her in for a couple of hours?
c) Cancel one of your evenings completely?
d) Suggest she talks to one of her other friends?

8 Assuming money is no object, which holiday would you favour the most?
a) A week at a health farm
b) A fortnight at an archaeological dig
c) Ten days on the Isle of Capri
d) A long weekend in Paris with the man of your dreams

9 Which one of the following do you most admire?
a) Princess Diana
b) Marilyn Monroe
c) Prince Charles
d) Bill Gates

10 Your partner's mother passes a hurtful and rude remark. Would you:
a) Say nothing but feel distressed?
b) Tell your partner and let him sort it out?
c) Ask your partner's mother to explain her comment?
d) Refuse to visit or speak to her any more?

11 One of the girls you work with is becoming increasingly lazy and you are having to take on the extra workload. Would you:
a) Take her quietly on one side and explain how you feel about it?
b) Carry on valiantly, assuming she has health or home problems on her mind?
c) Make an official complaint about her?
d) Take holiday or sick leave and let the boss see what's going on?

12A workman arrives several hours late and offers a flimsy excuse. Do you:
a) Say nothing - you are grateful that he has turned up after all?
b) Phone his employers and voice your dissatisfaction?
c) Feel sorry for him because he is obviously having a bad day?
d) Make sure he completes the job, with efficiency, before he leaves?

13 Your best friend tells you that you are getting too fat. Do you:
a) Thank her for her interest in your waistline?
b) Not speak to her for a month?
c) Stay in, feeling depressed and ugly?
d) Go on a diet immediately - it was the push you needed?

14 Your partner suggests an evening at the cinema. He fancies a horror movie while you prefer a less violent film. Do you:
a) Go reluctantly but keep your eyes shut most of the time?
b) Go without voicing any protest - it's not often he takes you out?
c) Insist that your choice of film would be more suitable?
d) Agree, but only if he'll take you to see something else another night?

15 What did you think about charity concerts such as Bob Geldof's Band Aid?
a)A wonderful achievement
b) A great promotion for the music industry
c) The answer to a starving country's prayers
d) A soul searching event which made you more socially aware.
(Courtesy Asia Features)

How did you do?
15-29 The hard-headed thinker: Hearts and flowers mean nothing to you. If you have a heart some would say it must be made of stone. You are always clear-headed and cool, although not necessarily calculating. Emotional problems do not affect your ultimate decision. You are able to remain detached and distant when it comes to affairs of the heart. Logic is your best friend. On the plus side you have a very positive attitude to life but it can make you seem very uncaring and cynical. Nothing can stop you from reaching your goal in life and the man who can find the key to that stoical heart of yours is a very special person indeed.

30-44 So balanced: Beneath that palpitating breast is a heart worth its weight in pure gold. You are a person capable of great feeling, but you enjoy exuding an aura of suppressed and controlled passion. You are a thinker, judging life's little difficulties with your head. But you are ever balanced about things, albeit boringly practical at times. A great diplomat, you realise often that although your head says 'no' your heart urges 'yes' and you go with intuition when faced with a raging mental conflict.

45-59 Big headed: Your heart always rules your head in the end, which is why you never get very far with anything in your life. You are soft and malleable. Men long to protect your innocence but watch out or you'll get smothered! Love is what makes the world go round as far as you are concerned and you see life through rose-coloured spectacles. Sometimes you'll try to avoid an important issue altogether by palming the problem onto someone else. Don't give your heart away too often - you may be disappointed.

60-75 Romantic pushover: You are a sentimentalist to the core. You probably spend most of your spare time brushing up on the classics like Romeo and Juliet, Wuthering Heights and Gone With The Wind. You hanker for the 'good old days' when women were gentle and men were REAL men. But in such a modern and thrusting world you'll be left far behind if you don't harden your heart to scheming manipulators of both sexes. Femininity will win you a knight in shining armour but who wants to flourish a duster and a can of polish for the rest of her life?


Just an ordinary guy
Even now that he's won an Oscar, Denzel Washington still can't see himself as part of Tinseltown

Grown movie-star women are not reticent when it comes to revealing their feelings about Denzel Washington. Take Julia Roberts kissing him square on the mouth at this year's Oscar ceremony. And Angelina Jolie telling me a couple of years ago that the best sex she ever had was with Washington. On film, mind you. When he was a quadriplegic in 1999's 'The Bone Collector.'

'Well, what can I say?' purrs Washington. We know he got their vote this year, and evidently many more besides.

But this 48-year-old is genuinely embarrassed by all the fuss. 'That life is not my world. It's not what I do.' He's happy to have won his Best Actor Oscar this year for Training Day, of course, and especially thrilled that he was part of that triumphant people-of-colour triumvirate. But he certainly did not prostitute himself on the promotional circuit, as the vast majority of Oscar nominees do. In fact, Washington was almost conspicuous by his absence during the Oscar season.

He doesn't even do the 'movie star at home' thing well, either. Until very recently, he lived in the Valley area of Los Angeles, for heaven's sake, an area where discerning celebrities wouldn't dream of residing. He did eventually wise up and has finally bought a more appropriate property in Pacific Palisades (five bedrooms, pool with cabana) where proper bigwigs like Steven Spielberg live.

Perhaps this is what makes Washington a famously good guy. Perhaps even the sort of bloke who might hold a cocky heart surgeon hostage to force him to give his dying son a new heart.

Such is the premise of Washington's new film John Q in which he plays a role he essays often in life - that normal guy with no particular power. He is a father without health insurance of a son who will die without a heart transplant.

"I was a man without power. I've worked in factories, for the sanitation department and in the post office. I know what it is to be unemployed. I've never had an insurance problem because I've never been hurt. But I know what it is not to have. I still have my unemployment book. And I take it out every now and then." The film is a powerful and not unrealistic indictment of the American health system. It's worth seeing for his performance alone, one infinitely more layered than that which won him his Oscar.

It will also underline Washington's credentials as his country's cinematic "everyman". "In my normal everyday life I have a job to do. I go to my job and I work. Right now, I'm getting into the car every day and going to the editing room, then I get back in the car, go home, eat dinner and turn on the TV. I put my feet up. I'm not out at all the parties and functions.

"Just because I live in LA that doesn't make me 'in Hollywood'. I don't do Hollywood things. I don't go to premieres for films I'm not in. In fact, the only two I've been to in the last 10 years were 'Do the right thing' and 'Erin Brockovich'. And that's only because Julia is my friend." Washington paints his wife of almost 20 years, Pauletta as something of a saint. She kissed Julia at the Oscars too. Roberts and Washington first starred together in 1993's 'The Pelican Brief and remain close. Washington's resume offers a Who's Who of Stars Who Will Become Huge. Besides Roberts there's Russell Crowe in Virtuosity (1995), Angelina Jolie in The Bone Collector and Matt Damon in Courage Under Fire (1996).

Did he see their stardom coming? "I did. When I saw Russell, I thought, 'Yeah, he's good', and as you can see now, I was right. I felt the same way about Angelina and when I did Courage Under Fire with Matt Damon, I said, 'This kid can act'."

Yet only Julia appears to have retained best-pal status. "Julia said the other day, 'I'm an ordinary person doing an extraordinary job'. And I thought, 'That's me'. I'm not an entourage person. I'm just a regular guy, driving my kids to the game and doing what my wife tells me."

Washington has four children, teenagers John and Katia plus 11-year-old twins Olivia and Malcolm (named for Malcolm X) - but appeared to have none in tow at the Oscars which, again, speaks volumes.

He may not parade them in front of the cameras, but he's very happy to brag about them. "All are into athletics. My eldest son was voted one of the top players in the country in high school football." Keeping his children out of the public eye has not worked as well as he would like. He was mortified when he asked recently if they would want to be famous. "They said, 'Oh yeah', and when I asked why, 'So we can get in restaurants'. I was shocked."


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