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Dear Coz
Dear Confused Heart, (letter withheld on request)
You haven't mentioned your ages. Are you financially stable to make it on your own? Maybe he should try to convince his parents again. It's your decision. This now-lets-start-it, now-lets-stop-it affair is taking you nowhere. If you truly love each other, and are in a position to build a life together - go for it. If not, be patient until you can. Your troubles will get much worse before they get any better. Can you handle it? Think long and hard. Make up your mind and then stand by your decision.

Dear Coz,
I'm a girl of 16. I fell in love with a guy at first sight. One of my friends told him this, without my knowledge. I didn't really like it when I got to know, because I'm a girl. After he got to know about me, he asked me out. I told him that I will give him an answer after my O/L examination. Now I've finished my exam. I now live in Colombo. I didn't call him because when I rang him up to say I'm shifting his mother scolded me and asked me not to call again. Now I don't like to start an affair with him because of his mother. I really don't know what he's thinking about me. Please give me some advice.
So Sad Shenike

Dear So Sad Shenike,
Hey, I know how you feel. Even I would have second thoughts if something was sprung on me like that. The truth is you loved him for himself, not his mother. If for one minor incident you're ready to forget him, maybe you're not as serious about him as you thought. Think about it. He's been pretty decent. Either way he deserves an explanation. Even if you're not ready for an affair, its time you told him so.

Dear ABCDEFG, (letter withheld on request)
Let's be practical. You're 15. He knows nothing about you and you know nothing about him apart from some hearsay. He also has a girl friend. Your sister is right. Put your mind to your studies. If it's meant to be, you'll bump into him sooner or later. Daydreams won't get you anywhere, especially where your studies are concerned. Failing your exam is no way to impress him. If you've got a lot of time on your hands do some extra curricular activities. It's a great way to meet people and have some good clean fun. Who knows you might even get a chance of meeting him.

Dear Coz,
I'm a boy who's going to sit for the 2002 O/L examination and I'm doing my studies well. But I don't have a girl friend and I don't have any thoughts about a particular girl. My friends are always teasing me about this. I tried to explain it to them but they don't trust me. Please tell me what to do.
C.K

Dear C.K,
Ask your friends what they really want out of life and what they plan to do in order to achieve that. Then explain to them that your goal is to succeed in your studies and that you're prepared to make sacrifices for that. Be firm. You are you! If they're real friends they'll appreciate you for who you are. There's no hard and fast rule that says you have to fall in love when you're in your teens. So stick to your goals. Don't worry!

Dear Coz,
I'm a 20-year-old boy, who has just finished my A/L's. Recently I went on a trip with my family and a few family friends. There I met a girl who must be a year or two younger than me. During this time I think I fell in love with her. I felt that she too is interested in me. But I never got a chance to speak to her. After the trip, I found her phone number and address. I really need her love but I don't think my parents will want me to fall in love before I complete my studies. I'm also a little shy to talk to her and dislike others getting to know this. So please tell me how I can win her heart without any problems.
Worried Hearted Guy

Dear Worried Hearted Guy,
You don't have to jump into an affair. You can still be friends. Call her up, maybe on the pretext of something regarding the journey.

Get to know her. As long as you don't rush headlong into an affair, I'm sure your parents wouldn't mind. No one's going to know as long as you keep it to yourself. So be bold and give her a ring. Talking over the phone is easier than a face-to-face meeting, so give it a shot. All the best!

Design your future
By Vidushi Senenviratne
Ralph Lauren, Versace, Giorgio Armani...........ever imagined yourself designing for the catwalks of Paris?

In Sri Lanka, more or less every school leaver ends up studying Computer or Management. What about the born designers, or aspiring ones, who have creative talent just waiting to be discovered?

Studying fashion abroad would be the only other option, but with a 'big price to pay', of course. Now young people with the gift of creativity get the chance of pursuing their dream right here. The New York School of Visual Arts (NYSOVA) is an institution which is filling the void present in higher education in the field of design.

The school was the brainchild of the Managing Director, Ms. Linda Speldewinde. Wanting to create a platform where budding creative minds could develop their talents, she invited an Italian fashion designer Mr. Tiziano Picogna to head the school. He is now a visiting lecturer. The director of the school at present is Ms. Annette Wendling Willeke, an Interior Designer and Architect from Germany. The faculty consists of about 10 lecturers some who are European, while the others are Lankans qualified abroad.

The institution which opened in November last year, has about 26 students at present. The school conducts one-year, full time diplomas in three areas of Visual Arts. The school plans to begin Degree programmes next year, affiliated to the Virginia Commonwealth University in the United States.

As a part of their practical work, the students need to submit three collections, where the first two parts would include illustrations and models of a creative idea or theme. The third part would require them to actually stitch and produce three items of clothing for that theme. These speciments would then be exhibited at the school itself.

"This is to create a portfolio," said Ms. Willeke.

According to the Director of the school, the emphasis is on the art foundation, which includes figure drawings of live models and still life models, general history of the Arts and Composition. The students are also taught graphic design and are familiarized with computer programmes such as Coral Draw, Adobe Photoshop and Illustrator and Macro Media Flash.

The school will hold an open day on August 17, where they plan to introduce themselves to the public. Admission is free and all are welcome. NYSOVA also plan to open a gallery on August 27, at the school premises itself. The gallery would be for young, aspiring artists who do not usually get a chance of exhibiting their creations. A non-profit undertaking, the artists' shows would be presented and marketed, courtesy NYSOVA.

The ten pound note
By N. De Silva
It was half past eleven again on the last day of her first week at work. She counted the minutes before the cleaner arrived.

The weekend was only hours away and even though in typical English style it was bound to be wet and miserable, she welcomed the break.

These five days, as well as making her fatigued with the constant reading and sitting down, had drained a lot out of her. Waking up that early to get the bus, fitting into the new environment and wading through wave upon wave of new technical jargon was taking its toll. It was her first real job after all and the years at University did not help much either. It was only by the end of the fourth day that some of it had started to make sense.

She would finish work at five to catch the only bus back to her new home away from home. In the evenings, chilly English winds carried Home News into her room through the window. They'd leave behind the anguishing smells of stringhoppers and chicken curry made with real coconut milk or of luscious lamprais. It reminded her of how the streets must be lined with red rambutan and dark mangosteens now. She would then let her mind wander, like a dog without a leash, and embark on wishful thinking.

Nothing was too different when this day had started and, as usual, she went first to the Ladies Toilet to redo her hair and smooth out the creases on her shirt. And that was when she found it. On the floor, right under the automatic hand dryer - A bright, crisp ten-pound note. It was still neatly folded.

The last time they had found money like that was in her father's office some years ago. She was visiting his office for the first time and they found the money on the marble staircase that led up to his floor. Her father split it between her and her sister and told them that they could do whatever they wanted with it. They had both put it as an offering in church and their parents had been pleasantly surprised.

Today she wanted someone else to have it. Someone she thought might like the extra cash to take his kids to McDonalds or buy his wife a present. Besides, she slyly assured herself, must it not be better to pass it on to someone worthy? So, she strategically placed it near her waste paper basket to make it look like someone had dropped it and waited for their cleaner.

Their cleaner was a tall, happy man without a care in his heart. He sang as he did his rounds and chatted endlessly to anyone who took the time and was never short of a 'Good Morning' even on the worst mornings ever! And so, that's how everyone knew him - hardly any meat on his bones but always a tune on his lips.

He never complained or grumbled. He just emptied the bins - the chocolate wrappers, orange peels, crushed bits of paper, pencil shavings, tissue - lined them again and went on his way.

There were thoughts battling inside her.

She could have left it where she found it. As it is, it was wrong for her to take the money in the first place. Or she could have tried to find the owner. But she argued with herself. It wouldn't hurt anyone, she thought. It was only ten pounds after all. She was just a student working for a short time but the permanent employees of this place raked home the millions and ten pounds to them was like a drop in the ocean.

When he came today, she turned around to face the other computer screen to allow him to take it quietly. She knew he had seen it. It was even better because the rest of the team had gone for a tea break. It was just the two of them. He went about his work as usual but suddenly the humming stopped. He didn't speak to her as he left. He just walked away like he had swallowed a fish.

And the note was gone and suddenly, she felt successful for the whole of five minutes.

She could not judge if she was wrong for having put him to the test. She was no 'Robin Hood' she thought. She herself felt guilty for having picked it up. She couldn't be dishonest even if she was paid to. The other time, at the Kebab shop, they had forgotten to ask her for the money but she could not walk away. But this? This wasn't stealing, was it?

Also, if she cared so much, she asked herself, why had she not used her OWN money? But it was too late for questions now. He had taken it.

Two hours had gone by and no one thought it strange that Bob returned to the already clean office.

His keys jingling.

Awkward smile.

They were all too busy behind the screens to notice. All except one and she knew what this was about. He walked in like he had missed cleaning some desks and came around to her corner.

He hovered for a bit and bent down over the bin.

With a quick flick, placed the note back again. He looked around quickly to check if anyone had seen it and was freed.

She felt ashamed for this little test and knew what she had to do next. It didn't belong to her either.

Then he wheeled his garbage bag again.

He seemed lighter.

And there was his tune again - louder than before.


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