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CLOTHES LINE
Love
for the sake of it
I would like to ask you something, tell me how many of you girls
get permission from your parents before saying "Yes" to
a guy? Come on, give me a break. You girls talk as if you've been
locked inside a cage until you get married. Parents are pretty broad-minded
and give their daughters enough freedom. They place all their trust
in us. Thinking we are their little princesses, we must never misuse
the trust. But what do we do? The minute we become friends with
a guy - out go the studies, up go the telephone bills, start hanging
out!
It's OK for parents to be worried and take some measures to prevent
unwanted problems, which may arise in the future. Because there's
this problem called teen pregnancy which is a nightmare for all
mothers who have these "outgoing" daughters!
Everything seems like sunshine and roses as long as we don't have
any problems. But when we do, remember girls, those so-called friends
of yours will never be around. The ones who branded you a lesbian,
remember? And the next scene, your family and your relatives won't
be asking the questions from your friends. Make no mistake about
it; your parents will be answering them for you!
So remember one thing girl, it's your life, you can't start an affair
just because your friends think that it's high time you did or just
because they think that you are a lesbian!
As I read somewhere,"Much of the vitality of friendship lies
in honouring of differences, not simply the engagement of similarities!"
Tell me, what kind of friends are they if they force you to do something
that you are not ready for? My advice is to stay away from them.
You'll be better off without them!
Girls your age think that it's some sort of qualification to have
a guy. It's almost as though the ones who don't have one are losers.
Tell you what, stop trying to please your friends. When you start
something only because they are asking you to, you will be compelled
to end it when they ask you too.
Next time when a guy asks you out, before saying anything, just
think if it is what you want to do for yourself. Finally one more
piece of advice. Your parents are not your enemies. They are your
first and best friends. And they knew you way before your friends
did. And no matter what, they'll love you unconditionally! Marriageable
age
For a 19-year-old, she had, I would say some interesting points
not on how to have a successful marriage but on what she called
"the marriageable age". She started off to say that in
her mother's era, the marriageable age was between 19 to 21. Her
mother had got married at the age of 21 and had two kids by her
mid-twenties.
I agreed with her about the "marriageable age" with the
change of time. Not stopping there, she said that right now, she
thinks the marriageable age was in the thirties (we are just talking
about the age for girls). She gives me an example, "see you
got married when you were 29 closing on thirty" (ouch, it hurt).
It is so true, that with time, things have changed. I remember my
grandmother telling us how she got married when she was 16 years.
I tried to reason out with her that for a girl, marriage was not
the only thing, there was a life beyond this, that she has to first
be independent by gaining something in life before tying the knot,
but she would give me a firm no. That was her era.
My mum-in-law got married when she was 19. Had six kids. Her explanation
was that an early marriage would allow parents to be more active
with the kids and help to have a close bond with the kids. I had
to agree with her because now that she is a grandmother I see how
active she is even with her grandchildren.
Coming back to the conversation with my colleague, I asked her at
what age she would tie the knot. Pat came the reply, "I have
a long way to go, you see I have to first finish my Uni. And then
I think I would like to try my hand at law or something. But marriage
is not on the cards for a long time".
I just hope her era won't go beyond the 30s. Rotten
fruit in a shiny jacket
Certain girls back stab their fellow students openly because they
are permitted to do so by certain staff members. It is all right
to even abuse a teacher. It is all right to be rude, to behave indecently
out of school. Most teachers do not have the guts to stand up for
what is right. They are unable to set a good example to everyone
as a "true teacher".
This school is rich and outwardly wonderful looking. But the inside
is miserable. Students are scolded in abusive language. Some teachers'
mannerisms and speech often remind us of sadists.
The girls behave like automatons.
Impartiality and kindness are absent virtues here. It is no miracle
that when these girls leave school they are ecstatic. I'm glad that
I survived without growing into a lunatic.
I hate my school for ruining its students. I hate my school because
of the way they crush the ones who are fault-free. I hate my school
for the way its teachers behave. I hate my school for being a rotten
fruit in a shiny jacket.
Girls and parents, it's high time you got up and stood up against
injustice! Think of those pampered ones who rot and the others with
crippled brains that leave for society from this school. Don't let
this become permanent hell for children hereafter. Move! |
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